Tag: Better life

‘Control Is In Control When…’

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth

Control is about you, not about others. You can only control yourself, not others. Do not go there. Because it won’t work.

It won’t work. It is about you, not about other people. Before you try to control other people, try to control yourself.

Because the only person you can control is yourself. According to Iyanla Vanzant, ‘… control is in control when:

You are fighting to prove you are right; you will lie to prove you are right; you have a need to be right; you are yelling in order to be heard; the only view that makes sense is yours; you won’t say anything believing you won’t be heard; the only thing that matters is what maters to you; you are still giving reasons why after someone has said no; you think if someone gets what they want or need you will not get what you want or need; you jump on someone’s ‘case’ to keep them off your ‘case’; you believe someone can or will hurt you and you are trying to avoid it.’

Instead of trying to control other people, why not focus on how you are going to get what you want?

Why not focus on where you are going, what you are doing, and how you are living your life?

Why not focus on how you are going to better your life? Above all, why not focus on your happiness?

How To Create A Better Future For Yourself

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth

You are responsible for your life. No one is coming to rescue you. If you want to create a better future for yourself, you have got to rescue yourself.

You do that by changing how you see yourself, what you are doing, and how you think about yourself. You are not going to be able to meet your future self if you are still playing your old music.

You are not going to be able to meet your future self if you are still listening to your old tapes. Why is that? Because where you want to go requires new thoughts.

You can’t create a new life with an old, negative thoughts. You can’t think like a loser and expect to create a better future.

If you are serious about meeting your future self, you have got to change what is going on inside your mind.

Remember, your mind is everything. What you want starts in your mind. If you don’t have a sound mind, you are less likely to get to where you are going.

Why? Because your future self doesn’t care about your old thoughts.

So if you want to meet your future self, you must make the most of what you have going on for you. Take care of what you are doing. Think positively about your life. Focus on what is going well for you. Do not waste your energy on things that are not helping you.

Surround yourself with positive people. Because you can’t do your dreams alone. You need other people to help you grow.

Give yourself permission to try things that are different from what you are used to. Give yourself permission to make mistakes, to think better thoughts, to meet great people.

That is what your future self wants from you.

You can create a better future for yourself when you change how you think about yourself. You can create a better future for yourself when you stop to care about being perfect.

Because your future self knows that we grow when we make mistakes. Do not be scared to do what you have not done before. Because that is what your future self wants you to do.

Try. Do not be scared to try. You are better than you think you are. You know that by actually trying something that you have never done before.

And, no matter what is going on in your world, your future self wants you to be positive. And you can find it within yourself. It is not out there. It is within you.

Remember, creating a better future is not about being perfect. It is about growth. It is about knowing what you want. And how to get it.

Everytime you are faced with a problem, remember where you are going, not where you are coming from.