‘Control Is In Control When…’

Control is about you, not about others. You can only control yourself, not others. Do not go there. Because it won’t work.

It won’t work. It is about you, not about other people. Before you try to control other people, try to control yourself.

Because the only person you can control is yourself. According to Iyanla Vanzant, ‘… control is in control when:

You are fighting to prove you are right; you will lie to prove you are right; you have a need to be right; you are yelling in order to be heard; the only view that makes sense is yours; you won’t say anything believing you won’t be heard; the only thing that matters is what maters to you; you are still giving reasons why after someone has said no; you think if someone gets what they want or need you will not get what you want or need; you jump on someone’s ‘case’ to keep them off your ‘case’; you believe someone can or will hurt you and you are trying to avoid it.’

Instead of trying to control other people, why not focus on how you are going to get what you want?

Why not focus on where you are going, what you are doing, and how you are living your life?

Why not focus on how you are going to better your life? Above all, why not focus on your happiness?

Steps to Create A Brighter Future For Yourself

Where you are right now is your future. What you are doing right now, today, is your future. It is preparing you for your future.

Your tomorrow starts now. If you don’t want to dissapoint yourself, if you want to see a different result, then you must pay attention to how you are spending your time.

Because time is life. If you don’t take care of your time, you are joking with your future.

If you want to create a brighter future for yourself, you must take care of today.

Taking care of today means you must take care of your problems. You must solve your problems yourself.

You have it within you. Do not doubt yourself. Do not say, ‘I can’t do it. I don’t have what it takes to do it. Other people are better than me.’

Do not say negative things about yourself. Pay attention to what is possible. Because ‘your future will be born from the opportunities you take advantage of today.’ Because if you don’t give yourself respect, if you don’t see yourself as a human being, no one is going to respect you.

If you want other people to respect you, to love you, to put you first, you must respect yourself; you must put yourself first, and you must love yourself.

Will you do it?