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What Is The Use Of Worrying About What You Cannot Change?

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According to Reinhold Niebuhr, “God, give us grace to accept with serenity the things that cannot be changed, courage to change the things which should be changed, and the wisdom to distinguish the one from the others.” We don’t do that. We want to prove our friends wrong. We want to tell people how strong we are, how smart we are. Look, you are not living for your friends. You are living for yourself. For that simple reason, you should be honest with yourself. Do not do things because you want to prove people wrong. Why is that? Because if you fail to do it, if you fail to accomplish it, you are going to be frustrated with yourself. Instead of doing something just to prove people wrong, why not do your own thing? Why not focus your whole attention on doing the things that can really make you a better person.

If you want to make peace with yourself, if you want to make peace with your life, do not worry yourself about what you cannot change. Just accept what you can change. As Shantideva once said, “If you can solve your problem, then what is the need of worrying? If you cannot solve it, then what is the use of worrying?” Don’t worry about what you cannot change. Because when you worry about it, you make it worse, not better. Don’t worry, just change what you change.

How To Get What You Concentrate Upon

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We get what we concentrate upon. But how do we get it? According to Jane Roberts, “You get what you concentrate upon.” That is, if you concentrate upon success, you will get success. If you concentrate upon hate, you will get hate. If you concentrate upon your life, you will get your life.

But what if we concentrate upon the wrong thing? What do we do to protect ourselves? What do we do to protect our minds?

Because of your intense concentration, be careful not to miss the wonder that is happening around you. Wonder is happening around you. Pay attention to it. Pay attention to love. Pay attention to happiness. Pay attention to other people. Above all, pay attention to yourself. But if you don’t concentrate on the right thing, you miss it.

If you want love to dominate your life, concentrate on love thoughts. If you want happiness to dominate your life, concentrate on happiness thoughts. You can find happiness right where you are just by paying attention. You can find love right where you are just by paying attention. Whatever you want in your life, pay attention to it.

But if you don’t pay attention to love, you miss love. And if you don’t pay attention to happiness, you miss happiness. And if you don’t pay attention to yourself, you miss yourself. What are you concentrating upon?