Tag: attention

How To Not Lose Yourself While Finding Your Own Path

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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‘… if you’re uncomfortable with something, it’s because it isn’t right. Discomfort is the human response to a questionable or bad situation, whether that’s working long hours with no end in sight, exaggerating your business numbers to impress investors, or selling intimate user data to advertisers. If you get into the habit of suppessing all discomfort, you’re going to lose yourself, your manners, and your morals.’– jason Fried & David Heinemeier Hansson

Discomfort is a message. If you want to know what is going on in your life, you must pay attention to what you are feeling. Do not ignore your feelings.

Do not pretend that things are alright. Because things don’t get better by themselves. If you want things to change, you must, according to Ray Dalio, know ‘how reality works.’ Know what you want. Know what you do not want. Know what you can do. And know what you cannot do.

Do not say no to everything. And do not say yes to everything. Just focus on what makes sense to you. If something is good, do more of it. If you do not feel good about something, don’t do it.

Say ‘no’ to what is not relevant to you. Because, according to Jason and David, ‘When you say no to one thing, it’s a choice that breeds choices. When you say yes to one thing, you’ve spent that choice.’

The question is, ‘What are you saying no to?’ And what are you saying yes to?

How Is Life Treating You?

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth

If life is not treating you well. if you are not getting the right results, if you are always beating yourself up, you have got to look into what is going on in your life.

Things are not just happening. They are happening for reasons. They are calling you to pay attention to what is going on, to what is important to you. But we are too busy to listen. We are after work. We are always driving, always moving.

Yes, you can drive yourself to do more, to create more, to live more, and to become more. But you can’t succeed in your own life if you do not have time for yourself.

No one succeeds like that. Life is not really about speed. Life is about care. It is about attention. It is about enjoying what you have, where you are, and what you are doing.

Life is more than speed. If you do not know who you are, for sure, speed is not going to matter when you are done pursuing other people’s dreams.

Speed matters when you are running your own race, when you are taking your time to master what you are doing, when you are not interested in who is behind you or who is ahead of you.

Whatever it is you are tolerating right now, you can change it. Whatever it is you are struggling with right now, this moment, you can take action to change it. Do not wait for another day.

Because the more you tolerate things, especially negative things, the worse they get.

If you want to make things better, no matter what they are, take big actions to change them. You can do it. Don’t wait anymore. Because now is your best time. Why not take it?