How To Stop Fear From Controlling You

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Tell yourself, “I can do this.” That is how you control fear. You control it by taking action to change things in your life. Fear does not respect talk. Fear respects action. Fear and action cannot coexist. When you take action, fear disappears. According to Alvah Bessie, “Fear is real and there is nothing you can do about it except to keep functioning, keep your hands and legs and body moving, your mind focused on the task at hand.” To get things done, don’t focus on fear. It is there, but do not let it put you in your comfort zone. Do not accept it. Because you are better than your comfort zone. You are here to move, to work, to live, not to get stuck in a rut. Baruch Spinoza said, “Fear cannot be without hope nor hope without fear.” Be hopeful that things will get better. Yes, no one can predict the future. But if you work really hard right now, if you concentrate on the task at hand, you can create your own future. You can do it. Don’t make things hard for yourself. Simplify your life. Make things easy, not difficult. Do what you haven’t done before. Try different things. Do not worry about failure, worry about not doing anything to change your situation. Take on new projects. Meet new people. Stretch your brain. Create thinking time for yourself. Hang out with people who are fearless. When you are always with confident people, your level of confidence will increase. Be around people who are smarter than you are. Above all, “always do what you are afraid to do.”

4 Learning Lessons From Xun Zi

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“Learning is life. Life is learning. If you are not living, you are not learning enough. If you are not growing, you are not learning enough”

Xun Zi, Chinese Confucian philosopher

Here are 4 important learning lessons from Xun Zi

Think, Think, Think.

“The learning of the gentleman enters through his ears, fastens to his heart, spreads through his four limbs, and manifests itself in his actions. … The learning of the petty person enters through his ears and passes out his mouth. From mouth to ears is only four inches- how could it be enough to improve a whole body larger than that.”- Xun Zi

Everything is connected

“In order to properly understand the big picture, everyone should fear becoming mentally clouded and obsessed with one small section of truth.”- Xun Zi

Always examine yourself on the inside

“It is simply that when one examines oneself on the inside, external goods carry little weight.”- Xun Zi

No matter where you are, no matter what you are going through right now in your life, always do the right thing.

“If an action … involves little profit but much righteousness, do it.”- Xun Zi