If you want live a purposeful life,
you must first say yes to the one you are living right now.
In his book Getting to Yes with Yourself and Other Worthy Opponents,
William Ury writes, 'Getting to yes with yourself is about changing
the inner game so that we can then change the outer game.'
That is the way life goes. If you want something to change,
then pay attention to your inner game.
You can do that. It is within your power.
If you can't control what is going on within,
you can never control what is going on without.
And do not try to help others if you can't help yourself.
To influence other people, you must first influence yourself.
To quote William Ury, 'If we can learn to influence ourselves
first before we seek to influence others, we will be better able to satisfy our
needs as well as to satisfy the needs of others.''
Before you say yes to others, you must first say yes to yourself.
Do not defeat yourself. If you don't defeat yourself, you can always get back up.
Do not stay down. The only person who can defeat you is you. The only person who can stop from achieving your greatness in your life is you. The only person who can poison your mind is you.
Look, no matter what you have gone through in your life, if you are not against yourself, no one can be against you.
To get yourself back up again, here are some strategies that will help you do it. So let us get started.
Accept your failures. To get back up, it is important that you accept your failures. You are not a failure if you learn from your mistakes. And the best way to do that is to accept where you are in your life. Do not blame anybody for your failures. They are not responsible. You are. In the words of Sonia Ricotti, 'Failure is the greatest thing that can happen to you, if you learn to use it, if you learn to read it, and act on it. The key to really leveraging failure is realizing that you have to change something on the inside in order for your outer-world results to change. If you don't, you are simply doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results.' Instead of beating yourself up over your failures, use them to grow your life.
Embrace your life. Do not regret your life. Just because you are going through something does not make you less important. You are important. You are powerful. You are a difference maker. You are bigger than you think. Do not let your circumstances define you. Follow your heart. Do what makes you come alive. And do not run away from yourself. According to Sonia Ricotti, 'You can run away all you want from each situation, but if you don't learn the lesson or grow from the experience, you are not changing anything.'' If you want to learn from your situation, do not run away from it. Instead, do the opposite.
Choose a new path forward. Do not regret your past. Do not relive your pain. Forgive yourself. And choose a different path forward. According to Sonia, 'When a crisis happens in your life... you can choose to take the awakened journey. You leave the past behind you, let go of what was, learn, grow, look for the silver lining, and move forward into the unknown and into a new, awakened world; a rebirth of sorts.''
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