Category: Health & Well-Being

How To Take Responsibility For Your Life

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Health & Well-Being, Personal Development, Personal Growth
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“If it’s never our faults, we can’t take responsibility for it. If we can’t take responsibility for it, we’ll always be its victim.”- Richard Bach

Who is responsible for your life? Who is responsible for your happiness? Who is responsible for your growth and development? Who is responsible for your peace of mind? Who is responsible for healing your soul? Who is responsible for changing your life? Who is responsible for moving you forward? Who?

If you are honest with yourself, the question is not hard to answer. It is very simple. It is YOU. You are responsible for your life. Stop waiting for people to fix you. No one is responsible for your life. You are in charge of your life. You are the boss. You are in command. Don’t wait for your brother or your sister to fix you. You have what it takes to help yourself get better. You know what it takes to move your life forward. If you don’t know, ask. Don’t shut up. If you don’t ask, you won’t get. If you ask, you will get.

You are responsible for asking for what you want. If you don’t take responsibility for asking for what you want, no one will ask for you. No one. Not even your best friend. Aldous Huxley said, “We were left to go our way and take responsibility for our own affairs.” If you really mean business, you must take care of your own affairs.

We are here to depend on ourselves. We are not here to depend on anyone. It is okay to ask for help, but don’t depend on anyone. Depend on yourself. Do your own work. Grow your own garden. Live your own life. Don’t imitate anyone. Don’t compare yourself to others. Don’t compare your achievements with others. Your achievements are your achievements. Enjoy them.

If you don’t have the courage to take responsibility for your failure, you will be its victim. If you can’t look your fear in the face, you will be its victim. If you don’t want to be a victim, you must take responsibility for your life. There are no easy ways to live a better life. There are no easy ways to change your life. There are no easy ways to become who you want to be. The only way is to do your work. If you want to succeed in your life, you must do your own work. Are you ready to work? Are you ready to do whatever it takes to succeed?

Why You Don’t Need To Be Perfect

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Health & Well-Being, Personal Development, Personal Growth
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“To be nobody- but yourself- in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else- means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting.”- e.e. cummings, poet

Let us face it, my friends. Who is perfect? Are you perfect? Is the world a perfect place? If we really want to be honest with ourselves, the answer is NO. So if nothing is perfect, then why are we fighting for it?

I am not perfect. I make all kinds of mistakes everyday. But I am okay with that. They don’t define me. And they can’t define me. Because you are who you say you are. If you say you are perfect, regardless of where you are, what is happening around you, within you, to you, you are perfect. That is what you should be telling yourself every day.

“If you say you are perfect, regardless of where you are, what is happening around you, within you, to you, you are perfect.”

When you wake up in the morning, celebrate your imperfections. Don’t worry yourself about them. Just celebrate the fact that you are imperfect. If you are completely perfect, if you have nothing to worry about, the world will be a boring place for you to live in. Perfection is boring!

If you want to grow in your life, don’t try to be perfect, try to always do your best. If you focus on being perfect, you will not enjoy anything in life, not even yourself. To overcome perfectionism, you must believe in yourself. Don’t try to be who you are not. It won’t work. And don’t let negative people talk you into ignoring your life, your purpose, your growth. In the words of e.e. Cummings, “Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.” When you believe in yourself, everything will work out well for you, not against you.

The real question is: Do you have the courage to believe in yourself? e.e. Cummings said, “It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” To grow up in your life, you must first overcome yourself. If you have not done that, you can’t overcome the world.

Do not let perfectionism stop you from talking to me. We will fight it together. We are all in this together. You are not alone. Whatever you want to do, go for it. The more you do, the better for you. Ralph Waldo Emerson told us many years ago that “all life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better.”

That is how we should approach our lives. If you can see life as it really is, if you can see things as they really are, you can achieve anything in your life. Again, the question is: Are you ready to love yourself as you really are? Are you ready to let go of who you think you are supposed to be? Are you ready to ignore other people’s opinions? Are you ready to stand up for yourself? Are you ready to stop creating who you are not? Are you ready to let go of negative friends? Are you ready to connect with yourself? If you are ready, the world is ready.