Are You “Living For Your Fictional Self?”

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Be comfortable with yourself. Stop trying to avoid yourself. It is not going to work. Because you can’t get away from yourself, from your mind, from your body, and from your soul. Other people can get away from you, but you cannot get away from yourself.

Since you can’t get away from yourself, then what are you going to do to reconnect with yourself, with your inner world?

Phillip C. McGraw says, “Living for your fictional self, whether it is a totally dominant force or just a partial one, is a dangerous state of being that diverts, absorbs, and robs your life energy.” Do not deceive yourself. When things are not going well for you, do not hide it. If you hide it, you are not deceiving others, you are deceiving yourself. You are stealing from your own life. You are crushing your own growth, your own success. Life is precious. Do not do that to yourself.

Your life matters. Start living it. Stop believing in where you were yesterday. Stop thinking about what didn’t go your way. It is a waste of your precious time to focus your attention on things that are no longer with you. Learn to let go. Letting go leads to freedom. When you let go of things that are eating you alive, you will attract better things, life-giving things into your life.

Do not fake it till you live it. Live it till you fake it. Do not fake your life. Be you, no matter what. Be comfortable living with yourself. If you cannot live with yourself, then where are you going to go?

How To Discover Your Authentic Self

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To rediscover your real self, according to Phillip C. McGraw, “You must be willing to challenge virtually every single aspect of your life, including the reality that you may be wanting and pursuing things that simply aren’t right for you.”

Change your story. If you can change your story, your life will change. What you are telling yourself is not what you are supposed to be telling yourself. It is wrong to limit your life. It is wrong to tell yourself false stories. Stop living in the past. Stop believing in your own lies. Let the past go away. You have nothing to do with it right now. You are no longer living there. You are now enjoying your life in the now.

Living in the past won’t help you grow. It will hurt you. It will make you weak. It will keep you where you are.

If you don’t like what you are getting right now, you have the power to change it. You do that by first changing your thoughts. If you can change your thoughts, you can change your life.

You are here to grow, not to waste your time. And to grow, you must challenge yourself. You must question yourself- the life you are living now. And you must focus on what makes you happy. And if you are not doing the right thing for yourself, stop it. If what you are doing is not helping you, don’t be scared to stop it. Do not be afraid to stop what is not lifting you up. If you don’t, you only make things worse. Do you want that?