Tag: Worry

You Cannot Change Your Past. You Can Change Where You Are Going

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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“Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.”– Buddha

The reason you are not happy is because you never stop thinking about your past failures. You never stop thinking about your past bad relationships. You never stop thinking about where your friends are now. You are dwelling in the past. You are living in the past, not in the present.

Let us be real here. How are you going to see yourself when your mind is not with you? How can you focus on your life when you are not there? How can you live in the present when your mind is not with you? If you have been doing it, it is time to stop. It is time to start living your life. It is time to forget about yesterday. You are not the only one with a bad yesterday. Don’t think you are the only one suffering. Don’t think you are the only one who is struggling right now. We are all going through things, but they are different.

What you are going through is meant for you to go through. It is designed to make you stronger, not weaker. So take it as what you have to go through to get to the other side of your life. You can’t change your past. You can change where you are going to.

Don’t worry about what you going through right now. You may have lost your job, but it is not the end of your life. You may have messed up your school exam, it is not the end of your road. Whatever you are going through right now is preparing you for what is to come. And a lot of things are coming. So be ready!

Use The Fear Of What Other People Think To Motivate Yourself

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development
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Fear is real, but don’t let it stop you from doing your job. When you focus your time and energy on fear, you will never do anything. Fear is there. It is real. Don’t worry about it.

Learn to be okay with fear. You have nothing to lose. You have everything to gain. You will gain confidence. You will gain yourself. You will gain your soul. Instead of running away from fear, the best way to conquer it is to face it. If you don’t face your fears, they will dominate you. They will stop you from trying to live your life in your own way.

You are better than what you fear. You are stronger than your fear. Face it. Not facing your fear is a total waste of your time. Because your dreams will never come true. Running away from your fear will not change anything. It will keep you in your comfort zone. All fear does is stop you from moving forward. It stops you from moving away from an abusive relationship. It steals your life away. It keeps you from reaching your goals. It paralyzes your dreams. It cripples you. Don’t allow it. You can stop it. You can stop it by facing it.

You can face your fear by walking in the direction of your fear. When you meet your fear, your fear will give in. But if you approach your fear from afar, your fear will grow bigger.

If you allow the fear of what other think to stop you from living your life, then you are not living. You are just existing. As I said before, fear is there. It is real. Since you know that, then why are worrying about the fear of other people? You shouldn’t worry about it. Let them say whatever they like. It is not your problem, but theirs.

In going forward, know this: “You can’t change people’s opinions. So don’t be a prisoner to other people’s opinions.” If you can do that, you are free!