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6 More Ways To Know Yourself Better

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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“Knowing others is wisdom, knowing yourself is Enlightenment.”- Lao Tzu, Chinese philosopher

Self-knowledge is the key to your success. If you don’t have a solid foundation, you cannot build a meaningful life. You can do it. You can build your life the way you want it. But you cannot get there unless you know who you are, where you are, and where you are going.

To know yourself, you must believe in yourself. Your real life starts with finding who you really are. You can’t find it if you don’t believe in it.

You must know your purpose. A life without a single purpose is a meaningless life. Your purpose is the reason you wake up every day. Your purpose is in your mind. To find it, you must listen to your mind. Don’t run after what others are doing. Discover your own purpose by following your core values.

You must follow and practice your core values. If you don’t know what you stand for, you have a lot of work to do. Your values represent you. They are who you are. They are what you stand for. They drive you. They control your thoughts. They control your actions. They control your whole life. When you follow your core values, your true self will come out. When you know your core values, your true self will shine.

You must let go of who you think you are. To let good things flow into your life, you must let go of the things that are holding you back. Don’t force yourself to be who you are not. Just let go of what is not making you happy. Lao Tzu famously said, “When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.”

“Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power.”- Lao Tzu

You must value yourself. No one will value you if you don’t value yourself. No matter what, you are who you are. Don’t criticize yourself. Don’t waste your life. Make your life count. Make your time count. If you don’t value yourself, you won’t value your time. Value your time. Because your time is your life. If you waste your time, it is gone. According to M. Scott Peck, “Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it.”

You must take action to change yourself. It is not enough to just know yourself. You must do things to change your life. You must take action to change things in your life. Talk is cheap. Action is hard. Sometimes we know what to do, but we just don’t do it. Because we don’t want to fail. Nobody likes to fail. But if you are scared of failure, you are scared of growth. To get to where you want to be, start failing forward.

Understanding Is A Two-Way Street. Here Is Why

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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Eleanor Roosevelt famously said, “Understanding is a two-way street.” What does this quote mean to you? To me, it means understanding is knowing, not judging. If you want to know people, don’t judge them, know them. If you want to know yourself better, don’t judge yourself, know yourself.

You find it difficult to even know who you are because you never stop judging yourself. If you want to help yourself, your life, your family, stop judging yourself and start celebrating who you are. You can judge yourself all you want. But one thing will not change: “Who you are.”

Stay away from judging people. Stay away from judging yourself. Because judgement prevents you from knowing people. It doesn’t tell you the whole story about them. Before you judge people, try to understand them. Try to understand where they have been, where they are, why they do what they do, and where they are going. People have different stories. Our stories are not the same. If you want to hear people’s stories, listen to them.

“Understanding brings peace and harmony.”

You cannot do that without understanding yourself. The real understanding starts with you. It starts at home. Greatness begins at home. Understanding brings people together. And judgement separates people. If you want to know people, understand them. Do not judge them. Mother Teresa said, “If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” If you want to love people, understand them. If you want to love yourself, understand yourself. You cannot love yourself if you don’t understand who you really are. Love connects. Judgement separates. Love heals. Judgement kills. If you want to grow your life, it starts with understanding what you want out of life. It starts with understanding your values. It starts with understanding your emotions. And it starts with understanding your life.

If you want to know others, understand yourself. You can do it. But it will take time.