How You See Yourself Is How Others Will See You

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How do you see yourself? Do you see yourself as a positive person? Do you see yourself as a loser? Do you see yourself as a failure? Or do you see yourself as a powerful person?

You cannot control how other people see you. But you can control how you see yourself. It is important to believe in yourself. It is important to love yourself. It is important to live your life the way you want to live it. How you see yourself is necessary. Live your life. Don’t hide your life.

How you see yourself is important. Why is that? Because you can’t please everybody. You can’t make everybody happy. You can only make yourself happy. You do that by doing the things that really make you happy.

Eric Hoffer famously said, “It is not love of self but hatred of self which is at the root of the troubles that afflict our world. We hate others when we hate ourselves. We are tolerant toward others when we tolerate ourselves. We forgive others when we forgive ourselves. We are prone to sacrifice others when we are ready to sacrifice ourselves.” The message here is: How you treat yourself is exactly how other people will treat you. How you see yourself is exactly how other people will see you. If you want to other people to treat you with love, respect, you must first treat them with love and respect.

Brene Brown Quotes On Compassion, Love, And Connection

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We need someone who embraces us for our strengths and struggles

“When we’re looking for compassion, we need someone who is deeply rooted, able to bend, and, most of all, we need someone who embraces us for our strengths and struggles. We need to honor our struggles by sharing it with someone who has earned the right to hear it. When we’re looking for compassion, it’s about connecting with the right person at the right time and the right issue.”- The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are

The energy that exists between people

“I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”- The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be Embrace Who You Are

We can only love others as much as we love ourselves

“We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness, and affection. Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them- we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.”- The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be Embrace Who You Are