How To Stop Fear From Controlling You

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Tell yourself, “I can do this.” That is how you control fear. You control it by taking action to change things in your life. Fear does not respect talk. Fear respects action. Fear and action cannot coexist. When you take action, fear disappears. According to Alvah Bessie, “Fear is real and there is nothing you can do about it except to keep functioning, keep your hands and legs and body moving, your mind focused on the task at hand.” To get things done, don’t focus on fear. It is there, but do not let it put you in your comfort zone. Do not accept it. Because you are better than your comfort zone. You are here to move, to work, to live, not to get stuck in a rut. Baruch Spinoza said, “Fear cannot be without hope nor hope without fear.” Be hopeful that things will get better. Yes, no one can predict the future. But if you work really hard right now, if you concentrate on the task at hand, you can create your own future. You can do it. Don’t make things hard for yourself. Simplify your life. Make things easy, not difficult. Do what you haven’t done before. Try different things. Do not worry about failure, worry about not doing anything to change your situation. Take on new projects. Meet new people. Stretch your brain. Create thinking time for yourself. Hang out with people who are fearless. When you are always with confident people, your level of confidence will increase. Be around people who are smarter than you are. Above all, “always do what you are afraid to do.”

Why You Should Have A True Friend

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We can’t live without others. And others can’t live without us. We need them in our lives. They need us in their lives. But it is important to know who you are inviting into your life. Don’t bring everybody into your life. Because you cannot be a friend to everybody. If you are a friend to everybody, then you are not a friend to your soul. Because you cannot make everybody happy. Do not even try to do it. It is not going to work.

You need a true friend. But if you can’t find a good friend, then be a true friend to yourself. Love yourself. Be your own best friend. Because if you cannot be your own best friend, no one can be your best friend. Your best friend lives within you. Your best friend is you, your soul, your heart.

Your true friend will always be there for you, will not judge you, will lift you up when you are down, will make you laugh when you are sad, will talk to you with respect, will always celebrate your success, will help heal your broken soul, will help you transform your life, and help you transform your pain into purpose.

If you cannot find a true friend, be a true friend to yourself, to your boss, to your wife, to your neighbor, to your customer, to your dog, to your mentor, to your soul. Can you make your soul happy?