Tag: respect

No Matter What, Be Kind To Yourself

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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No matter what, treat yourself with kindness. Treat yourselt with respect. You deserve it. Don’t wait for other people to treat you with kindness. You give it to yourself first.

No matter what you are going through, what you went through, choose kindness. Because kindness is everything in life. If you are kind to yourself, other people will be kind to you. Isaac Bashevis said, “Kindness I’ve discovered, is everything in life.” Yes, kindness is everything in life.

Nothing can defeat kindness. Kindness is wisdom. It makes things better, not worse. So it is a disgrace to disrespect yourself. But is not a disgrace to treat yourself with love and kindness. Don’t disrespect yourself. Don’t betray yourself. When you betray yourself, you also betray God.

Whether people are happy with you or not, always treat yourself with love. Choose love always. Choosing love is great, but choosing yourself is greater. So choose yourself.

How To Stop Fear From Controlling You

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Health & Well-Being, Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo of Woman Writing on Tablet Computer While Using Laptop
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Tell yourself, “I can do this.” That is how you control fear. You control it by taking action to change things in your life. Fear does not respect talk. Fear respects action. Fear and action cannot coexist. When you take action, fear disappears. According to Alvah Bessie, “Fear is real and there is nothing you can do about it except to keep functioning, keep your hands and legs and body moving, your mind focused on the task at hand.” To get things done, don’t focus on fear. It is there, but do not let it put you in your comfort zone. Do not accept it. Because you are better than your comfort zone. You are here to move, to work, to live, not to get stuck in a rut. Baruch Spinoza said, “Fear cannot be without hope nor hope without fear.” Be hopeful that things will get better. Yes, no one can predict the future. But if you work really hard right now, if you concentrate on the task at hand, you can create your own future. You can do it. Don’t make things hard for yourself. Simplify your life. Make things easy, not difficult. Do what you haven’t done before. Try different things. Do not worry about failure, worry about not doing anything to change your situation. Take on new projects. Meet new people. Stretch your brain. Create thinking time for yourself. Hang out with people who are fearless. When you are always with confident people, your level of confidence will increase. Be around people who are smarter than you are. Above all, “always do what you are afraid to do.”