Tag: Positive Actions

What To Do When Things Go Wrong

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development
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Are you trying to control the world around you? Are you trying to control other people? Or are you trying to be perfect, to make everything perfect?

If you try, you are just planning to fail, not to succeed. Why is that? Because you are a human being. No matter how smart you are, you are not going to be able to make everything perfect. It won’t happen.

If you try to do it, you are just frustrating yourself. You are making yourself mad. You are not being nice to yourself. You are not being kind to yourself.

So when things go wrong, do not beat yourself up. Don’t say things like, ‘I am an idiot. I am not smart enough. Why me?’ When you say things like these to yourself, your brain is hearing you. And your brain will make them possible for you.

When things go wrong, remember that you are a human being, an imperfect being. Be nice to yourself. When you are nice to yourself, you say, ‘everything is going to be alright.’ You don’t beat yourself up. You don’t tear yourself down. You say positive things to yourself. You say, ‘I am not my mistakes. I am not my failures. I am a learner. I am not perfect.’

When you stay positive, when you look at your mistakes as learning chances, it makes them easier to manage. It focuses your attention on what you can do better next time. It stops you from reaping yourself apart. It stops you from being unkind to yourself. And it reminds you that it is okay to mess up.

Finally, when things go wrong, remind yourself that you are not a failure, that you are learning, still learning, that it is okay to mess up, and that you are not going to give up on yourself, no matter what.

As always, you are more, not less!

The Benefits Of Thinking Differently

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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When you think differently, you will see things differently. When you think differently, you will do things differently. When you think differently, you will behave differently. When you think differently, you will work differently. And when you think differently, you will live your life differently.

And people will say, ‘you are different.’ It is good to be different than it is to be the same. The same is just the same. You will get what you put into it. If you want to be different, you must learn to think differently.

It is hard, but it is possible. You can do it. You don’t have to be like other people. You don’t have to copy what other people are doing. You can learn from them, but do not copy from them.

Because when you copy from other people, you are not learning. You are just trying be like other people. You are just trying to be who you are not. You are just trying to think like other people. It is not possible. It won’t help you. So don’t waste your time.

To get what you want, you must think differently. You must see things differently. Do not be afraid to question things, especially things that you don’t know.

Thinking differently is not about totally ignoring what others have done in the past. It is not ignoring what you have done in the past. It is learning from what works. It is letting go of what is not working.

As a being, you are thinking differently when you have the courage to question your own thoughts, your own assumptions, when you dare to live your life on your own terms.

You are thinking differently when you have the courage to see the world differently, when you don’t judge people before you meet them.

You are thinking differently when you know that there is more out there than what you already know.

You are thinking differently when you are willing to be tested, to be vulnerable, when you are willing to explore the unknown. That is thinking differently.

So if you are tired of getting the same results, why not consider ‘thinking differently?’