Tag: Personal Development

Why You Should Define What You Want

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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If you do not know what you want to achieve in your life, speed doesn’t matter.

Competition doesn’t matter. Work doesn’t matter. Thinking does not matter.

What truly matters is what you want. Know what you want, then do whatever you can to make it happen.

But you must define it first. To do that, according to Dan Sullivan and Dr. Ben. Hardy, ask yourself the following questions:

‘What are you ultimately going for?

What are you ‘optimizing’ for?

What level of capability and results do you want to develop and master?

What are the standards you want to refine and actualize?’

Interesting, right? When you are answering them, be specific about what you truly want, what you care so much about.

Answer them in your own unique ways. Why? Because, according to Dan and Dr. Benjamin, ‘Your agency as a person is based on what you choose to develop yourself into.’ And, ‘It’s your responsibility to to define what you want and to direct your focus and attention toward that.’

Remember that ‘whatever you focus on, you become.’

Why Not Now?

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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I agree. ‘The time is now.’ If not now, when? When it comes to your dreams, I believe that the best time to start is now.

Now is better. Now is the right time. Do you know why you are still waiting? Do you know why you are still talking about your dreams?

Why? Do you know? What are you afraid of? Why not now? What is holding you back? Why are you not going after it? Is it fear? Is it the fear of failure? Or is it the fear of success?

Whatever it is that is holding you back, you can face it. But it is not going to happen overnight. It is going to take time to get used to.

Before you continue, ask yourself, ‘Why am I not going after what I want? Why am I holding myself back? Do I have what it takes to go after what I want? Is it the right thing for me? Am I going to do it for the right reason? Is it going to make me happy? Am I doing it for myself?’

According to Mel Robbins, ‘Every day that you allow your fear of somebody else’s opinion, stress over friendships, or concern about how someone will react to prevent you from making the phone call, filling the application, working on the business plan, starting the diet, or putting in the effort, you’re holding yourself back. You’re robbing yourself of your potential. You’re standing still while life moves on around you.’

Your dreams are still alive. They are not dead yet. They are still breathing. To keep them going, to bring them to life, you have got to take action.

Do not let anything stand in your way. You have what it takes to move forward. If you are not moving forward, other people are doing it. If you are still planning to start your journey, other people are already going. They are almost there. What are you still waiting for? Why are you not up? If you are waiting for the right time to come to you, that is not going to happen. If you want your dreams to come true, you have got to make time for them to happen. Will you?

‘It’s time to let adults be adults.’