Tag: Opportunities

We Are Bound To Fail

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by Liza Summer

“… But when it comes to things we think really matter, like creating a career or raising children, we bear down, tighten up, and absolutely refuse to fail. Anyway, that’s the theory. The reality is, we are bound to fail. By refusing to accept this, we only make things worse. Conversely, if we only own our failure openly, publicly, with genuine regret and absolutely no shame, we reap a harvest of forgiveness, trust, respect, and connection- the things we thought we’d get by succeeding.”- Martha Beck, as quoted in O’s Little Guide to Starting Over

Failure will happen. You cannot stop it. We are here to fail. Because if you want to grow, if you want to move to the next level, without failures, it is not going to happen. So when you fail, instead of beating yourself up, find out what went wrong. Let the people around you know what happened. Do not hide it. See what you can take away from it. And then continue with your life.

“We are bound to fail.” it is going to happen. It is your learning point. When you fail at something, learn from it. Take it as an advantage to know what you do not know. Take it as an opportunity to stretch yourself, to challenge yourself, to get out of your safe zone. Do not avoid it. If you do, according to Martha Beck, “we only make things worse.”

Before You Give Up, Look Around Where You Are

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by Ann H

“What will become a man when he gives up self?“- Swami Paramananda

You must protect your future by being decisive. We do our best work when we are decisive. We do our worst work when we are indecisive. Life is full of difficulties. Whatever you are going through right now, don’t give up. Fight with it until you have learned something from it.

Do not ignore where you are. You are there for a purpose. Before you give up on yourself, before you give up on your dreams, before you start chasing a new position, before you start looking for the best place to stay, look around you. See if what you are looking for is right where you are. Look for the reason to stay there. Look for opportunities, not excuses. As Martha Graham once said, “Some men have thousands of reasons why they cannot do what they want to, when all they need is one reason why they can.” Wherever you are, whatever you are doing, do not look for excuses to leave, look for reasons to stay.