You Don’t Need This Person In Your Life

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It does not matter where you are, what you are doing, where you are going, you do not need someone who is constantly putting you down, who is never for you, who does not support your dreams, who always talk you out of your dreams, who never sees anything positive in your life.

If you want to grow yourself, you need someone who is not afraid to tell you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear.

Do not hang out with negative people, with toxic people, with people who are not going anything, who are not doing anything to improve their lives, to change their situations, to position themselves for greatness.

In his book Higher is Waiting, Tyler Perry wirites, “Is there someone in your life who is contantly putting you down, triggering your feelings of inadequacy? You don’t need this person. Ask yourself, “Why am I staying?”

Yes, why are you still in a terrible marriage? Why are you still with a terrible boss? Why are you still hanging out with lazy people? Why?

No matter what you are going through right now, if you do not stand up for yourself, people will abuse you. If you do not love yourself, people will abuse you. People will feed you with the food you don’t want to eat. They will feed your heart with the wrong words.

Do not worry about who is for you or who is against you. If you are for yourself, if you know what you want for yourself, if you do not live for others, you can make your life work for you, not against you. If no one is for you, be for yourself. That is good enough. Yes, it is.

4 Ways To Make Today Count

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To make today count, you must live it. And if you do not live it, if you do not choose yourself, you will lose it.

To make today count, try these four strategies:

“Put your whole heart into the present”

James Allen said, “Put your whole heart into the present, living it, minute by minute, hour by hour, and day by day, self-governed and pure.” If you really want to make today count, you must stay in the present moment.

Choose yourself

Chogyam Trungpa once said, “Unless we are able to make friends with ourselves, there is no hope at all. If we abandon ourselves as hopeless, as villains, then there is no steppingstone.” To know yourself, you must embrace yourself. Do not reject yourself, no matter what. Even if others don’t like you, if you are for yourself, no one can be against you.

Stay away from negative people.

“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always o that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.”- Mark Twain

Face a situation fearlessly

Florence Scovel Shinn said, “Face a situation fearlessly, and there is no situation to face; it falls away of its own weight.” If you do not believe in your own self, if you cannot face life, consider what you are doing to yourself. You are limiting yourself. Because you do not have the courage to face life, to face your fears.

Remember, to defeat something, you must face it.