Tag: Motivational Quotes

What You Should Know About A Controlling Person

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Motivational Quotes, Personal Development

Freedom is life. It is everything. If you are not free, you are not living. Freedom is more than just walking around.

Freedom is when you have the power to control your life, when you have the courage to do what you love to do. Freedom is when you are comfortable with yourself. It is not when you are under the control of another person.

A controlling person, according to Dr. Lisa Aronson Fontes, ‘often feels stronger when he makes his partner feel powerless and ashamed.’

‘A controlling person asserts power by setting rules and micromanaging his partner’s everyday life.’

‘A controlling man might accuse his partner of flirting or being involved sexually with friends or coworkers.’

‘A controlling person feels threatened when his partner’s life doesn’t revolve entirely around his own.’

‘A controlled person cannot reach her full potential.’

‘A controlling man tries to become the only authority in the house and encourages children to disrespect their mother.’

‘The controlling person defines reality. If he says it’s ‘love,’ then it’s ‘love,’ even if it feels like control.’

‘A controlling person communicates: ‘If you cared about us a couple, you wouldn’t make problems.’ Women keep silent to avoid making waves.’

‘Controlling people often consider themselves victims, evoking their partner’s pity and compassion.’

‘It is difficult for controlling men to change, But staying the same is also difficult.’

No matter what you are going through in your life, remember that ‘you are the one who decides how much is too much.’

As always, you are not a victim; you are a victor. Stay safe!

Further Reading:

Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD (2015). Invisible Chains: Overcoming Coercive Control in Your Intimate Relationship

If You Want To Embrace Vulnerability, Don’t Ignore These Quotes

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Motivational Quotes

According to Lewis Howes, ‘Taking off that mask to show vulnerability is one thing, but when you do it to show the world who you really are, that is something else entirely. That is true strength.’

‘We are driven by our beliefs– the problem is that many of our beliefs at all. They’re faulty assumptions built on fear that get baked into culture because we’re even more afraid of addressing them than we are of addressing the fear that created them.’

‘What you are supressing is creating disease. Disease of the heart, the mind, and the soul. You need to clear this by exposing what you’re covering up to the light of openness, honesty, and vulnerability.’

‘Shame and uncertainty are only a few short steps away from depression and anxiety. Separately or together, those emotions can drive you to the brink. They can blot out everything else in your life and literally make you carzy.’

‘We’re all going to do different things with our money. We’re all going to have different numbers that we aspire to reach. But at the end of the day, if you think that amount of money will make you accepted by other people, or will get you friends, you’re doing it for the wrong reasons and you are fooling yourself.’

‘You cannot purchase connection. And your net worth will never create self-worth, no matter how much the two might seem to be related.’

‘What we need to realize is that we are valuable, regardless of what we have. We need to recognize that, while living behind the Material Mask, there will never be such a thing as ‘enough’ when it comes to a sufficient sense of self-worth as a man.’

‘Live in gratitude. Someone who is grateful for what he has, no matter how little it is, will be more open tom living a joyful life.’

‘We are all gifts. When you see someone filled with love and joy, it is contagious. It doesn’t matter how much money they have; what matters is how they show up in the world.’

‘Having a sense of humor is not a bad thing, but there’s a time and a place for everything. When you’re using humor as an avoidance tool, it becomes detrimental. When you’re using it to add fun and joy to a situation, it works.’

Further Reading:

Lewis Howes (2017). The Mask of Masculinity: How Men Can Embrace Vulnerability, Create Strong Relationships, And Live Their Fullest Lives