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How To Choose Life Over Fear

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by Josh Willink

“To conquer fear is the beginning of wisdom. Do not fear to be eccentric in opinion, for every opinion now accepted was once eccentric.”- Bertrand Russell

To conquer fear, you must first conquer yourself.

“The privilege of a life time is being who you are.”- Joseph Campbell

Life is not easy. Do not let fear stop you from doing what you are here to do. Because the purpose of your life is to grow, is to increase, is to challenge yourself. Do not give in to fear. No matter what is going on in your life, do not let fear defeat you. As Edward Burke once said, “… The concessions of the weak are the concessions of fear.” Do not let that happen to you. Yes, life is not easy, but you can make it better for yourself. To make your life better, you can try these strategies:

How to choose life over fear

Do what you are afraid to do

“Courage is doing what you’re afraid to do. There can be no courage unless you’re scared.”- Eddie Rickenbacker

Stop living your life in fear. You are not here to live in fear; you are here to live in love, to enjoy your life, to face your own demons. Whatever you want to do, go for it. It is okay to fear, but do not let it stop you. Do not give in to it. If you want to do well in your life, you must be brave. As the old saying goes, “Fortune belongs to the brave.” So if you want to be successful in your life, you must be brave. You must have the courage to do what you are afraid to do.

Nothing is impossible

Before you get frustrated with yourself, it is important to know that you have what it takes to pursue whatever you want to pursue in your life. Do not let fear stop you from going after your dreams. You can do some things really well, but not everything. If you are to move forward, you must look for what you are really good at and do it really well. Dr Robert Schuller said, “Today’s accomplishments were yesterday’s impossibilities.” You can achieve your dreams if you have the courage to follow your path.

Always be grateful for what you have

“Always look at what you have left. Never look at what you have lost.”- Dr Robert Schuller

Focus on what you have, not what you do not have. Gratitude is the way to bring more things into your life. When you are happy for what you have, you will have more things to celebrate. Life is not perfect, but do not let that stop you from living your life. According to Robert Herjavec, “None of us can achieve perfection in everything we do, but all of us can be as good as our abilities enable us to be.” That is true. You can be good at something, but not at everything. So if you want to succeed, follow what you are good at.

Be Yourself

You can achieve anything you want if you are your true self. When you know who you are, you will know what to avoid. Don’t change because people want you to change. Before you change, you must know why you are changing. If you do not know why you are doing something, then it is not the right thing for you. Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” No matter what you are facing in your life, do not give up on yourself. Be yourself. When you are yourself, your true self, you can grow yourself.

4 Critical Ways To Find Out Who You Really Are

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by Tima Miroshnichenko

Who are you? What do you really want for yourself? What do you really want for your life? Why are you here? Do you know what you are good at? Do you know what you are not good at?

If you want to be successful in your life, you must focus on what you are good at. And to focus on what you are good at, you must first know who you are. Because you cannot be good at something if you do not know who you are.

If you don’t know who you are, you really can’t develop yourself.

So if you really want to make a difference in your life, here is how to go about it:

Go after what you want

If you can face what you want, you can develop yourself. If you can face what you really want for your life, you can grow yourself. But if you don’t know what you want, if you do not have the courage to face what you want, you can’t go for it. According to Barbara Sher, “You must go after your wish. As soon as you start to pursue a dream, your life wakes up and everything has meaning.” No matter how scary your dream may be, do not be scared to face it. Because if you do not have the courage to face your fears, you are not going to succeed.

Don’t play it too safe

If you want your life to change, if you want to change the direction of your life, you must NOT play it too safe. Do not be scared to make mistakes, to fail. People don’t try because they don’t want to fail. If you want to win, play it hard, not safe. Barbara Sher said, “When you play it too safe, you’re taking the biggest risks of your life. Time is the only wealth we’re given.” To succeed, you must take risks. If you fail, do it again.

Focus on the goodness within you

That is why you should always try to be around great people. When you are with great people, they will make you bigger than yourself. When you are with small-minded people, they will make you smaller than you really are.

To defeat people’s opinions of you, you must have the courage to focus on the goodness within you. You have it. All you need to do is to reconnect with your true self. Do not try to be good. You are great!

According to Eckhart Tolle, “You do not become good by trying to be good, but by finding the greatness that is already within you allowing that goodness to emerge.” You are already good. Do not try to convince other people to believe in you, in your dreams. Because other people cannot make you who you are not. Other people cannot give you what you cannot give yourself.

You already have what it takes to do great things in your life.

Focus on your inner stillness

You don’t here yourself because you do not listen to yourself. Your inner voice talks to you every day, but you never listen. You are always busy. You are always working, always jumping from place to place. You never find the time to listen to your inner voice.

Remember, you can’t hear if you do not listen. Eckhart Tolle said, “When you lose touch with inner stillness, you lose touch with yourself. When you lose touch with yourself, you lose yourself in the world.” It is good to listen to yourself. Do not be uncomfortable with yourself. When you connect with your inner life, you connect with your true self.