5 Super Questions That Will Change How You Live Your Life

Are you writing a history of misery, or a tale of tenacity?’– Iyanla Vanzant

What are you writing? Are you writing your own story, or are you waiting for other people to write your story for you? Do not wait. Do it yourself.

What if someone you loved and respected suddenly stopped speaking to you?’- Iyanla Vanzant

Do not brush it under the rug. Because you do not know what is going on with him or her. To know, you must ask. Keep asking until you know what is going on. If not, it is not going to go away.

What are you still holding on to?’

Look, life is precious. If you are not growing, you are dying. If something is not making you happy, if something is not growing you, it is killing you. If something is NOT adding value to your life, let it go. Remember, to let go is to let in.

Are you willing to be vulnerable?’

If you want to grow, if you want to improve yourself, your life, being vulnerable is the way to go. If you are not willing to be vulnerable, you will not know what you can do to change your life. If you want to grow, being vulnerable is everything. It is the way.

Are you a victim, or are you a victor?

You are a winner. You are not a loser. You are a doer, a producer. according to Iyanla Vanzant, ‘As long as you are a victim you will have someone to blame, someone to hold accountable for what went on and what is going on in your life.’ If you think like that, it is not going to be easy for you to create the life you want for yourself.

Whatever is going on in your life, you can handle it. Don’t blame it on anybody. It is your own to face. If you can face it, you can move forward.

The question is, ‘Are you willing to take full responsibility for your life?’

How To Handle Self-Doubt

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You are free to doubt yourself. But do not give in to it. When you feel it, express it. When it shows up, acknowledge it.

Do not try to supress it. When you do, you are not helping yourself. You are just extending your pain.

Self-doubt is not going to go away by trying to pretend it is not there. It is there.

When it shows up, ask yourself, ‘When I experience self-doubt, how do I respond?’

Do you cry? Hide? Run away? Shy away?

The best way to handle self-doubt is to see self-doubt as something that we must face, something that we must overcome, if we are to move forward.

When you feel it, do not ignore it. Self-doubt is normal. It is not here to stop you from achieving your dreams.

Use it to strengthen your dreams. Use it to strengthen your life. Do not give in to it.

Do not accept it. Why is that? Because you are good enough. You are powerful enough to handle your own life.

Your self-doubt is trying to tell you that ‘you are not good enough.’ That is not true. You are good enough. You can do whatever it is that you want to do. Take on what you can do.

Focus on what is important to you. When you do that, self-doubt cannot stop you from moving forward.

The question is, ‘When self-doubt shows up, what are you going to do?’

How?