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10 Rare Life Lessons To Keep You Going

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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For leaders,

‘Good leaders know that they can’t control everything from the top.’- Grant Golliher

Great leaders don’t micromanage their people; they work together.

‘A good leader wants to encourage freedom, not constrain it.’- Grant Golliher

If you want your people to grow, you must encourage them to try new things.

‘A partner will stick with you through thick and thin.’- Grant Golliher

Good friends are hard to find. But if you do have some, do not play with them.

‘Don’t ask a deep or challenging question if you’re not ready to listen to the answer.’- Grant Golliher

LIsten to understand, not to talk. It is much more better to listen than it is to talk. Listen. Listen to learn, not to judge. And if you are not ready to listen, then don’t ask ‘a deep or challenging question.’

‘In a relationship of trust, we don’t spring things on each other.’- Grant Golliher

A relationship of trust is about understanding, not about commanding. You can’t force people to trust you. If you want it, you must earn it.

‘You must give trust in order to get trust.’- Grant Golliher

Trust is everything. If you want people to trust you, always do what you say you are going to do. Live your talk. Walk your talk. And digest your talk. And they will trust you.

‘If you honor the little things, the big things will take care of themselves.’- Grant Golliher

When it comes to your success, everything is important. Take whatever it is that you are doing seriously. What you are doing right now is your ticket to your next big thing in your life.

‘If you deal with the attitude, you won’t have to deal with the action.’- Grant Golliher

If you don’t like your life, then check what you are doing. Check your attitude. If your attitude is good, your life will be good. Why? Because attitude is everything.

‘Discipline without love is abuse, but love without discipline is also abuse.’- Grant Golliher

If you want to do the impossible in your life, you must first discipline yourself.

Discipline is doing something that you don’t want to do. Discipline is doing what other people don’t want to do.

‘You can be bittter or you can be better.’- Grant Golliher

Whatever you are going through in your life, don’t get bitter, get better.

‘Don’t be afraid to move your feet.’- Grant Golliher

Do not be scared to take action. Without action, nothing is going to happen.

It Is Okay To Be A Perfectionist, But Do Not Forget Your Purpose

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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It is okay to be a perfectionist, but do not forget why you are doing what you are doing. And do not forget where you are going.

If you want to get a lot more done in your life, you must focus on getting better at what you are doing.

Perfection is not possible. It is a dream that will never come true. If your dream is to be great at what you do, getting better is the way, the only way.

Here is why you shouldn’t worry about being perfect at what you are doing:

According to Dr. Kenneth R. Ginsburg, ‘Perfectionists reject anything less than a flawless product or performance. They don’t enjoy the process of creating because they worry endlessly about not performing as well as they think they should.’

When you are creating something new, when you are modifying something old, focus on what you are doing.

Learning happens when we are doing, not when we are done.

‘When perfectionists do well, they may not even notice because they are so worried about mistakes they might make or focused on how they could do better.’

If you do not pay attention to where you are in your life, to what you are doing, you will never achieve your dreams.

Success starts with attention. Achievements happen when we pay attention to what we are doing.

‘Perfectionism is a state of unease driven by an intense sense of being unacceptable.’- Dr. Kenneth R. Ginsburg

Failures happen when we don’t see what is in front of us.

‘Perfectionists see every mistake as evidence they’re are unworthy or not good enough.’

Growth happens when you accept your mistakes as learning opportunities.

Success happens when you accept a mistake as a bridge to where you are going.

Successful people are not scared of mistakes. In fact, they welcome them.

‘Perfectionists fear adversity. They lack the flexibility to rebound from difficulty because challenges paralyze them. The thought of not doing something well prevents them from taking chances that successful people take to reach their greatest potential.’

You cannot live a great life without adversity. Adversity is not your enemy. Adversity is your frenemy.

When you face your adversity, your success is likely to come to you.

But if you don’t, if you do not have the courage to face what is yours to face, do not hope for success.

Why? Because when it comes to success, when it comes to achieving the impossible, hope is not a plan.

‘Hope is not a strategy.’

If you want to be successful, adversity is the way.