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4 Critical Ways To Find Out Who You Really Are

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by Tima Miroshnichenko

Who are you? What do you really want for yourself? What do you really want for your life? Why are you here? Do you know what you are good at? Do you know what you are not good at?

If you want to be successful in your life, you must focus on what you are good at. And to focus on what you are good at, you must first know who you are. Because you cannot be good at something if you do not know who you are.

If you don’t know who you are, you really can’t develop yourself.

So if you really want to make a difference in your life, here is how to go about it:

Go after what you want

If you can face what you want, you can develop yourself. If you can face what you really want for your life, you can grow yourself. But if you don’t know what you want, if you do not have the courage to face what you want, you can’t go for it. According to Barbara Sher, “You must go after your wish. As soon as you start to pursue a dream, your life wakes up and everything has meaning.” No matter how scary your dream may be, do not be scared to face it. Because if you do not have the courage to face your fears, you are not going to succeed.

Don’t play it too safe

If you want your life to change, if you want to change the direction of your life, you must NOT play it too safe. Do not be scared to make mistakes, to fail. People don’t try because they don’t want to fail. If you want to win, play it hard, not safe. Barbara Sher said, “When you play it too safe, you’re taking the biggest risks of your life. Time is the only wealth we’re given.” To succeed, you must take risks. If you fail, do it again.

Focus on the goodness within you

That is why you should always try to be around great people. When you are with great people, they will make you bigger than yourself. When you are with small-minded people, they will make you smaller than you really are.

To defeat people’s opinions of you, you must have the courage to focus on the goodness within you. You have it. All you need to do is to reconnect with your true self. Do not try to be good. You are great!

According to Eckhart Tolle, “You do not become good by trying to be good, but by finding the greatness that is already within you allowing that goodness to emerge.” You are already good. Do not try to convince other people to believe in you, in your dreams. Because other people cannot make you who you are not. Other people cannot give you what you cannot give yourself.

You already have what it takes to do great things in your life.

Focus on your inner stillness

You don’t here yourself because you do not listen to yourself. Your inner voice talks to you every day, but you never listen. You are always busy. You are always working, always jumping from place to place. You never find the time to listen to your inner voice.

Remember, you can’t hear if you do not listen. Eckhart Tolle said, “When you lose touch with inner stillness, you lose touch with yourself. When you lose touch with yourself, you lose yourself in the world.” It is good to listen to yourself. Do not be uncomfortable with yourself. When you connect with your inner life, you connect with your true self.

8 Simple Ways To Forgive Yourself

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by Tara Winstead

Forgiveness is not about other people. Forgiveness is about you. It is the way forward. No matter what people have done to you, forgive them. It is a process. It is not an overnight thing. It is not an overnight event. It takes time to forgive. Do not rush yourself. Just take your time to prepare yourself. Forgiveness is not easy, but it is better for you, for your health, for your life. So if you want to do it, now is the right time to do it.

You can. You will. And you must forgive. Here is how to do it properly:

Change what you believe about yourself

“I change my story by changing what I believe about myself.“- Don Miquel Ruiz

Forgiveness starts with you. It is for you. So to really forgive yourself, to really forgive others, you must first change what you believe about yourself. If you cannot change what you believe about yourself, you cannot forgive yourself.

Learn from your mistakes

Do not let your past mistakes take over your life. It is normal to make mistakes. You cannot grow without them. A mistake is a sign of growth. If you make mistakes, do not beat yourself up. Just learn from them. In the words of Anthony Robbins, “Take the opportunity to learn from your mistakes: find the cause of your problem and eliminate. Don’t try to be perfect; just be an excellent example of being human.” That is why you should make more mistakes. Because learning is not about trying to be perfect, but to get better at what you do.

Value yourself

Until you value yourself, you won’t value your life. And do not expect other people to value you if you cannot value yourself, if you cannot respect yourself. M. Scott Peck once said, “Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time.” Why is that? Because your life is time. And time is your life. Remember, if you value your life, you won’t waste your time. No matter what, do not let anyone put you down. You must surround yourself with great people. To do that, you must first value yourself. You must believe in yourself. If not, you can’t do it.

Thank God for all He has done for you

According to Mary Manin Morrissey, “Thank you, God. I may not have reached my dream, but I am grateful for that which I do possess.” Yes, to get more in life, you must first appreciate what you have. You must focus on what God has given to you, not what you do not have. When you appreciate what you have, you will have more to be grateful for.

“Act happy, feel happy, be happy…”

“Act happy, feel happy, be happy, without a reason in the world. Then you can love, and do what you will.”- Dan Millman

Remember that the essence of life is to be happy. And it is your responsibility to make yourself happy. No matter what is going on in your life, do not forget to make yourself happy.

Be there for yourself

Dr Phil says, “You’re only lonely if you’re not there for you.” People are lonely because they are not there for themselves. Do not do that to yourself. Do not let the fear of other people’s opinions stop you from being there for yourself. Because if you do not have the courage to be there for yourself, no one is going to be there for you.

Surround yourself with great people

To forgive yourself, you must surround yourself with great people. Who are they? Why are they different? They are for you, not against you. They are for your dreams, not against your dreams. When you are with great people, you can do what you will. According to Og Mandino, ” Do not listen to those who weep and complain, for their disease is contagious.” So let me ask you. Who are the people around you?

“Never compare yourself or your achievements with others.”

Focus on what you are doing. Others are doing their own things. Don’t worry about what others are getting, what others are doing, or where they are going. That is not your business. What you are doing is your business, is your responsibility, not what others are doing. Focus on yourself. If you want to compete, compete with yourself. It is simple, but hard to do. When it comes to living your life, do what Norman Vincent Peale said. Norman Vincent Peale said, “Never compare yourself or your achievements with others.” If you have the courage to compete with yourself, you will have the courage to live a great life. Because it takes courage to live a great life.