Tag: failures

Share Your Shame

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development

Shame is heavy. If you have the courage to share your own shame, you are going to feel better about yourself.

Shame is why people don’t talk about their mistakes. Shame is why people don’t bring other people into their lives. Shame is why people hide their mistakes. Shame is why we keep ourselves away from the life that God has created for us.

Shame is a devil. If you do not talk about it, it is going to keep you small. It is not going to leave you alone.

Not talking about your failures, not talking about your weaknesses, not talking about what you are struggling with, not talking about what is bothering you, it is only going to get worse.

If you want to walk freely, to enjoy your life, to increase your happiness, and to bring more love into your life, to do what you are doing really well, you must be brave enough to talk about your shame.

When you talk about your shame, when you own your shame, when you don’t care about what other people are saying about you, moving forward becomes really easier to face.

The question is, ‘Do you have the courage to do what you are not good at? Do you have the courage to face your shame?

The Power Of Suffering

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development
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According to Anthony Robbins, ‘Is there an area of your life in which you feel unnecessary pain?

Are you perhaps reacting rather than deliberately choosing?

How could you change your focus and turn a seemingly painful event into a pleasurable opportunity to learn, to grow, or help others?

What are some of your pain-avoiding and pleasure-inducing patterns?

What are some of the more positive ways in which you could move away from pain and toward pleasure?’

Whether you want to face the above questions or not, you cannot live your life without pain. It is part of who we are. No one can achieve greatness without first going through pain.

If you want to change your life, you must be comfortable with discomfort. If you want to grow, you must ‘get comfortable with uncertainty’. Without it, you are playing! You are not going anywhere.

If you do not want to get comfortable with stress, then you are not going to be able to reach your greater heights.

If you want to be successful, you must face your pain. Pain is the way to your next level. It is pain before success. It is pain before growth. It is pain before self-discovery.

In her book Why You Should Empower Yourself: How to Make Lemonade when Life Gives You Lemons, Xenia Tchoumi writes, ‘Pain is a powerful transformative force for growth. You can’t become a better person or achieve your goals without going through a certain amount of discomfort and difficulty. No one has ever made it in life without encouraging some hurdles and failures.’ The author is right.

If you want to improve your life, you must embrace uncertainty. Do not ignore it. Do not run away from difficult things. The more you do, the better for you.

When you are faced with something that you have not done before, give it a shot. When you accept the pain as part of your own growth package, you will be able to cope with it. Don’t throw away an opportunity to grow.

If you want to grow your life, to expand your world, you must embrace discomfort. The question is, ‘Do you really know how to suffer?’

As always, you are more, not less!