The Power Of Suffering

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According to Anthony Robbins, ‘Is there an area of your life in which you feel unnecessary pain?

Are you perhaps reacting rather than deliberately choosing?

How could you change your focus and turn a seemingly painful event into a pleasurable opportunity to learn, to grow, or help others?

What are some of your pain-avoiding and pleasure-inducing patterns?

What are some of the more positive ways in which you could move away from pain and toward pleasure?’

Whether you want to face the above questions or not, you cannot live your life without pain. It is part of who we are. No one can achieve greatness without first going through pain.

If you want to change your life, you must be comfortable with discomfort. If you want to grow, you must ‘get comfortable with uncertainty’. Without it, you are playing! You are not going anywhere.

If you do not want to get comfortable with stress, then you are not going to be able to reach your greater heights.

If you want to be successful, you must face your pain. Pain is the way to your next level. It is pain before success. It is pain before growth. It is pain before self-discovery.

In her book Why You Should Empower Yourself: How to Make Lemonade when Life Gives You Lemons, Xenia Tchoumi writes, ‘Pain is a powerful transformative force for growth. You can’t become a better person or achieve your goals without going through a certain amount of discomfort and difficulty. No one has ever made it in life without encouraging some hurdles and failures.’ The author is right.

If you want to improve your life, you must embrace uncertainty. Do not ignore it. Do not run away from difficult things. The more you do, the better for you.

When you are faced with something that you have not done before, give it a shot. When you accept the pain as part of your own growth package, you will be able to cope with it. Don’t throw away an opportunity to grow.

If you want to grow your life, to expand your world, you must embrace discomfort. The question is, ‘Do you really know how to suffer?’

As always, you are more, not less!

Are They Really Thinking About You?

‘The only person thinking about if other people are thinking about you is you?’- Lia Garvin

No, they are not. They are not thinking about you. They are not after you. They are not after what you are doing. They are not after where you are. They are not after your failures, your mistakes. They are not.

Get over it. Do not dominate your life with other people’s opinions of you. Do not focus on what people are saying about you. It is not going to help you. It is going to hold you back from actually taking care of your life.

Do not waste your energy. It takes a lot of energy to think about what others are thinking about you. What if they are not thinking about you? What if they are just doing their own things? What if….?

Live your life. Focus on what is on your plate. Focus on what you are doing. Do not focus on what is not even happening. If you think other people are thinking about you, you are the one.