Tag: Emotions

This Is Why You Should Please Yourself, Not Others

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Health & Well-Being
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“Don’t compromise yourself- you’re all you have.”- John Grisham

“Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius-and it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.”- Marilyn Monroe

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Can you please everyone? The answer is “NO.” Can you make everyone happy? The answer, again, is “NO.” Can you make yourself happy? The answer is a big “Yes!” How? By controlling what you focus on. You must control your mind. Because whatever you focus your mind on will grow. So do not focus on negative things. If you do, they will grow. Focus on positive things. If you catch yourself allowing negative thoughts into your mind, immediately replace them with positive thoughts. Is it easy? No. But you can do it. Try it and see what happens.

You cannot please everyone. Sometimes, it is possible. Other times, not so much. The problem is if you try to please everyone, you are putting yourself under pressure. You are designing yourself for a big disappointment. You are ignoring your needs and wants. We are human beings, right? We all have wants and needs, right? Don’t we?

The answer to your trying to satisfy everyone is to learn how to live a “balanced life.” So, what is a balanced life? Living a balanced life means your ability to take care of your needs and the needs of others without exhausting yourself to death.

When people ask you for help, if you can do it, say yes. If you can’t, say no. Don’t be scared to tell people how you feel. Your life is what we are talking about here. Take care of your inside before your outside. If you take proper care of your inside, your outside will take care of itself. Don’t please people to ruin your own life. You are important. They are important. Everyone is important. If they love you, they will understand your point. If they don’t, let them go.

Yes, You Can

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Health & Well-Being
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Before you start your journey, you must conquer yourself. You must conquer your ego. Ego is the issue with us. You don’t need to conquer the world, but you need to conquer yourself. Without that, you can’t do anything.

Marcus Aurelius said, “Yes, you can- if you do everything as if it were the last thing you were doing in your life, and stop being aimless, stop letting your emotions override what your mind tells you.” Don’t let your emotions control your decisions. For example, when you are angry, don’t make any decisions. Because anger is bad. It is a bad emotion. If you allow it to control you, it will mess you up.

When you are angry, try to focus on something that will make you feel really better about the situation. Learn to master your own emotions. If you want to conquer the world, you must first conquer your emotions. If you want to conquer other people, you must first conquer your emotions. Because you are your master.