How To Rediscover Yourself

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No matter what you have done to yourself, no matter where you have been, no matter what you have called yourself in the past, and no matter what other people have done to you, you are a new person. You are no longer the old you. You are ready for a new beginning. You can rediscover yourself. And the right place to start is right here.

To rediscover yourself, you must 'set boundaries.' If you want something new in your life, then pay attention to what you allow into your mind. According to Payal Kadakia, 'We can't control other people, but we can set boundaries and limits. We don't have to talk about anything we don't want to. Everything we allow into our mind is food for thought.'' Because thoughts matter. 

Have a solid grasp of where you are in your life. If you know where you are, then you can plan your next move. But if you do not know where you are, you don't even know what is going on around you, then moving forward will be a heavy load to carry. According to Robert Ringer, 'Proper perception of reality is as crucial to life as oxygen. Trying to to make it through life without a solid grasp of reality is like stumbling around in a dark room laden with mines. Being aware of what you are doing and why you are doing it- a prerequisite for looking out for number one- means being conscious of what's going on around you.'' If you want to know where you are in your life, do not ignore what is happening in your life. It matters.

Be Honest with yourself. John Maxwell said, 'You can't help yourself if you are kidding yourself.' If you truly want to rediscover your true self, you must stop kidding yourself. And you must be honest with yourself. To quote Ringer, 'Deluding oneself about a person's true nature is not only self-deceitful, but self-destructive as well.'' Why is that? Because you will never get what you are seeking in your life, which is to rediscover yourself. You can't rediscover your true self if you are not being honest with yourself. If you want to move forward, honesty is the way.

Focus on what you still have. Focus on what you still have. Accept where you are. And be grateful for your life. We are happier when we appreciate our lives, when we focus on what is going well in our lives, and when we accept ourselves for who we are. In her book The Velveteen Principles: AGuide to Becoming Real, Toni Raiten- D' Antonio writes, 'Gratitude flows when you are able to focus on the positive instead of the negative.'' When we are going through difficult times in our lives, what do we do? We lose hope. 
And hope is what we need to put our lives together. If you want to rediscover yourself, do not lose hope.
Because it is the way forward.

Tell Yourself What You Need To Hear, Not What You Want To Hear

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Honesty is the art of telling yourself what you don’t want to hear. To know yourself, you have to be honest with yourself. If you are honest with yourself, you will be honest with others. When you are honest with other people, they will trust you. They will do anything for you. They will help you succeed. They will trust you and comet to you when they are in trouble.

You cannot be successful in life without first being an honest person. Nobody wants to work with a dishonest supervisor, manager, or boss. As a boss or a manager, if your people don’t trust you, you have lost it all. They will keep sensitive organizational information to themselves. When they are in trouble, instead of coming to you, they will talk to their friends, seek outside help.

If you want them (your people) to trust you, don’t lie to them. How? Make it a habit to always tell them the truth, no matter what. When things are going well in your organization, let them know. When things are not going well in your organization, let them know. Make sure you keep your promise. Don’t say one thing today, and do another tomorrow. If you say you want to do A, do A. Don’t say A, and do B. They will not trust you when you say something like that next time.

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If you want to achieve success with people, with yourself, you must be honest with yourself, and with the people you interact with on a daily basis. You cannot achieve success if you are a dishonest person. Start telling yourself the truth. Start telling yourself what you need to hear, not what you want to hear. There is growth in what you need to hear. There is a disaster in what you want to hear. What you need to hear reveals reality to you. What you want to hear, on the other hand, prevents you from facing your reality. Without facing your reality, there is no growth. If you want to grow, face reality. Ask yourself questions that will reveal your hidden secrets- your strengths and weaknesses.

If you want things to change in your life, start telling yourself the truth. The truth will set you free.