You Can’t Change People, But You can Change Yourself

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People change because they want to change, not because they are threatened to change. It is difficult to change yourself, let alone to even think of changing other people. It is good to try, but you are unlikely to succeed.

Change is not comfortable. People don’t like to change, because it is not easy. It makes them nervous. It makes them uncomfortable. They will resist it. Since you know how hard it it to convince people to change, why bother?

It is good to try. Remember, no matter what you do, no matter the strategy you use to convince them to change, there are people who will never change. They love what they are doing. They are comfortable with where they are and with what they are doing. They will change when they are ready.

In order to succeed in convincing people to change, give them valid reasons why they should change. Give them valid reasons why they should leave their comfort zones for something they don’t understand. Let them know that changing is coming. Don’t surprise them. If you do that, they will resent and resist your project. Make them understand that where they are going will be better than where they are coming from. Give them hope. Coach them. Make them comfortable. Don’t exclude those who are not in support of your change process. Listen to them. They have something valuable to add to your change project.

Don’t get frustrated if people are not ready to change. They will change when they are ready. It will not happen if they don’t believe in you. Before they even listen to you, they have to believe in what you are selling. So be honest when dealing with people. Thomas A. Kempis said, “Be not angry that you cannot make others as you wish them to be, since you cannot make yourself as you wish to be.” If you can’t change yourself, don’t even bother to change others. Change starts with you. People will change when they see you change.

Change is personal. If you want people to change, be honest, and give them time to process it. Don’t rush them, and they will consider it.

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Be the change you want to see in others

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If you want to change the world, start with yourself. It is easier to tell other people to change than to tell yourself to change. People will change only when they see you changing. If they don’t see you doing what you are asking them to do, they will not change. If you want to move the world, let the process begins with you. Without that, it is not going to happen.

If you want to change the world, start with yourself.”

Change is a way of life. The only thing that is constant in life is change. Change is what we do everyday. Whether you know it or not, you are changing everyday. So, if you want to move the world, you MUST first move yourself. If you want to change the world, your life, your business, your relationships, you MUST first change yourself. If not, it is a waste of time.

Leo Tolstoy said, “Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.” Because it is easier to tell people what to do than to tell yourself to do the same thing. But life does not work that way. If you think of changing the world, you must first think of changing yourself. You must first think of changing your environment. You must first think of changing your life. The only way you can tell a good story is when you have experienced it.

Gandhi said the same thing in a different way. He said: “You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” Don’t wish for someone to bring change to you. It is not going to happen. If you want things to change, go out there and change it. If you want your life to change, go out there and meet success, and your life will change.

If you want to be successful, be a change agent.