Tag: Being True

What To Do When Things Go Wrong

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development
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Are you trying to control the world around you? Are you trying to control other people? Or are you trying to be perfect, to make everything perfect?

If you try, you are just planning to fail, not to succeed. Why is that? Because you are a human being. No matter how smart you are, you are not going to be able to make everything perfect. It won’t happen.

If you try to do it, you are just frustrating yourself. You are making yourself mad. You are not being nice to yourself. You are not being kind to yourself.

So when things go wrong, do not beat yourself up. Don’t say things like, ‘I am an idiot. I am not smart enough. Why me?’ When you say things like these to yourself, your brain is hearing you. And your brain will make them possible for you.

When things go wrong, remember that you are a human being, an imperfect being. Be nice to yourself. When you are nice to yourself, you say, ‘everything is going to be alright.’ You don’t beat yourself up. You don’t tear yourself down. You say positive things to yourself. You say, ‘I am not my mistakes. I am not my failures. I am a learner. I am not perfect.’

When you stay positive, when you look at your mistakes as learning chances, it makes them easier to manage. It focuses your attention on what you can do better next time. It stops you from reaping yourself apart. It stops you from being unkind to yourself. And it reminds you that it is okay to mess up.

Finally, when things go wrong, remind yourself that you are not a failure, that you are learning, still learning, that it is okay to mess up, and that you are not going to give up on yourself, no matter what.

As always, you are more, not less!

Quotes About Embracing Yourself

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Spirituality

‘No matter what you have done in the past, learn to see yourself as a new creature in Christ.’- Joyce Meyer

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You are who you are, not what you do. ‘We must all beware of letting our value rest in what we do, because no matter what it is that we do, the day will probably come when we won’t do it any longer.’

‘No matter how many other people love you, if you don’t love yourself, you will still feel lonely.’

‘Being free is much more important than being right.’

‘Joy is to our lives like gasoline is to an engine. Without gasoline, the engine will not run; without joy, I don’t believe the human being runs well either.’

‘Never apologize for being the person you are. That would be like an apple tree apologizing for not being a banana tree. If you’re an apple tree, then produce apples; if you’re a banana tree, then produce bananas! It takes all kinds of fruit to make a fruit salad.’

‘Any time we try and fail, we learn something that can benefit us in the future if we won’t give up.’

‘We are never free until we have no need to impress other people.’

‘Many people will tell you that you can’t do a thing if it is something out the ordinary, but if it not ordinary, then it can be extraordinary.’

‘If God wanted us to be miserable, He would not have offered us mercy!’

‘God does not want us to feel belittled and insignificant because we sin; He wants us to face our faults, receive mercy and press on.’

‘Many of our mistakes are made while we are trying to do something right.’

‘We may be sincere, but still be sincerely wrong. We may have good intentions, and still create a mess. God sees our heart, our motives and intentions and is willing to clean up our messes while we are growing.’

‘God’s mercy sets us free to keep trying even though we often makes messes.’

‘There is no fee that you have to pay to go to God’s party. After all, it is being given in your honor, so it would be a shame if you didn’t show up.’

‘We cannot move on to where we would like to be if we refuse to face where we are!’

Source: Meyer, J. (2013). God is not Mad at You: You can Experience Real Love, Acceptance & Guilt-free Living. The Hachette Book Group

As always, You are more, not less!