Love is freedom. To love people is to give people freedom to live their lives.
Love cannot exist without freedom. Love is giving freedom to yourself, to other people.
Love is not taking freedom away from people. It is giving them freedom to fail, to love themselves, to make their own mistakes, to take their own risks.
Where there is no freedom, their is no love. Because love cannot exist where there is no freedom. So if you want to love yourself, give yourself freedom to love yourself. If you want other people to really show you true love, do not control them.
Love is not about control. Love is about losing control. In the words of Paulo Coelho, “To love is to lose control.” If you cannot lose control, you cannot love. Because love is not about control. It is about freedom.