Day: March 19, 2021

Why You Should Give Yourself To Yourself

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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Albert Camus said, “To be happy, we must not be too concern with others.” You have a lot of positive things to worry about, not other people’s opinions.

If you want to be happy, do what makes you happy. Be around happy and positive people. Don’t waste your time trying to make other people happy. Make yourself happy. Don’t try to please everybody. Trying to please everybody is like trying to cook your food without water.

The only person you can please is you. The only person you can control is you. Because you are responsible for your own life. Make your life the way you want it. Don’t explain your life to negative people. They will add nothing your life. Instead, they will poison your mind. It is your life. If you want to live it well, you must do whatever you can to stay away from people who are not adding anything to your life.

“It is better to praise yourself than to belittle yourself.”

Don’t explain your life. Live it. Follow your dreams. Don’t become what other people want you to be. Instead, try to become who you really want to be. With hard work, you can become who you were created to be. God created you for a purpose. And that purpose should be your drive, not people’e opinions. God has a plan for your life. Listen to God. Follow God. Look up to God, not to man. Because God will never fail you. He has done it for you before. If you follow Him, he will repeat it again.

You can become who God created you to be. You do that by giving yourself to yourself. Michel de Montaigne said, “Lend yourself to others, but give yourself to yourself.” Don’t allow other people to live your life for you. Live your life yourself. That is how God wants you to live your life.

Michel de Montaigne said, “Don’t discuss yourself, for you are bound to lose; if you belittle yourself, you are believed; if you praise yourself, you are disbelieved.” No matter what, it is better to praise yourself than to belittle yourself. God wants you to praise yourself. And you should always praise yourself. You should never put yourself down. God wants you to go up. People want you to go down. Choose God, not people.

Every Person Is Worthy Of Your Attention

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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People want to be respected, not disrespected. People want you to see, hear, and recognize them.

According to Eckhart Tolle, “Whenever you meet anyone, no matter how briefly, do you acknowledge their being by giving them your full attention, or are you reducing them to a means to an end, a mere function or role? What is the quality of your relationship with the cashier at the supermarket, the parking attendant…” Life is about lifting people up, not about bringing them down.

No life is worthless. So when you meet people, small or big, thin or fat, smart or dull, tall or short, black or white, you should respect them. You should stop judging people. When you treat people with respect, when you give people what they deserve, they will never forget you. Maya Angelou said, “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” And if you want to get ahead in life, you must learn to always recognize people for who they are, not for what they have. Why is that? Because it is the right thing to do. Above all, we are all human beings. And we should be treated as human beings. Period.

When you meet people, honor them. Respect their stories. Learn from their stories. They have a lot to teach you, if you are willing and ready to learn from them. Hermann Hesse said, “It is not our purpose to become each other; it is to recognize each other, to learn to see the other and honor him for what he is: each the other’s opposite and compliment.” When you meet people, appreciate them. Don’t judge people. Learn to appreciate people. Remember this: Judgment is not about other people; it is about you, your character.

If you want to build your character, you must learn to appreciate people for who they are, not for what they have. Because no life is worthless.