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Love Yourself The Way You Want To Be Loved

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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‘The ultimate expression of love is loving another in the way they want to be loved.’- Gary John Bishop

Is life without love even possible? Living a life without love is like driving a car without gas. That is not possible. It is not possible because love is energy. Love is life.

Where there is no love, there can be no life, no movement, and no growth. Love is important. It is the reason we are here. And if you want to give it to other people, you must first give it to yourself. You must first love yourself the way you want to be loved.

Do not be scared. It is not a bad thing to love yourself first. If you think it is bad to love yourself first, then think about this question: ‘Can you give out what you do not have?’ Is it possible?

If you are true to yourself, the answer is no. And that is why you shouldn’t wait for others to love you. If you have the courage to love yourself the way you want to be loved, I think that is good enough. According to Gary John Bishop, ‘When someone say they don’t love you, it doesn’t have anything to do with you.’ It has everything to do with them. Why? Because you can’t give out what you do not have.

Stop Playing Not To Lose

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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It is okay to lose. That is how we learn. That is how we get better at what we do. So it is okay to lose. It is okay to fail. It is okay to make mistakes.

When you lose, take it as an opportunity to get better, to know more about yourself. Take it as an opportunity to reach out to other people who are better than you at what you are doing. And when you lose, take it as an opportunity to question your ego.

‘If you are playing not to lose, you are already losing.’

Yes, your ego. You can’t win by respecting your ego. You can’t win if you don’t pocket your ego. Guess what? If you don’t pocket your ego, your ego will pocket you.

But it is not okay to focus on what is easy. Look, if you focus on what is easy, you will get what is easy. And what is easy doesn’t make you better. It makes you worse.

Do not be scared.

Everything is possible.

But to get there, the world of possibilities, you must stop playing not to lose. It won’t help you. If you are playing not to lose, you are already losing.

‘No one wins when fear is in charge.’

Because you are not giving your best. You are not becoming your best. And you are not connecting with the best. And above all, you are not being true to yourself.

To move forward in your life, you must stop playing not to lose. And you must start taking calculated risks. Do not allow fear to cripple you. Do not allow fear to control you. If you do, you will never achieve your dreams. Because no one wins when fear is in charge.