How To Deal With Negative Criticism

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“Do the very best you can; and then put up your old umbrella and keep the rain of criticism from raining down the back of your neck.”– Dale Carnegie

If you want to live a healthy life, do not worry yourself about criticism. Whether you are doing well or doing bad in your life, people will criticism you. But if you really want to be great in life, criticism is part of the game of life.

People criticize us based on what they think they know about us. The question is, “Do they really know anything about us?” The answer is NO. They know nothing about you. For that reason, don’t let what they say about you worry you for a minute. If you do, you are giving them the room to do more.

When you are reacting to criticism, don’t react negatively to it. Because reacting negatively to criticism is not going to make it better. It will make it even worse. Also, when you react negatively to criticism, you are telling the person who is criticizing you that he or she is right in his or her evaluation of you. Don’t let that happen!

You can’t learn from criticism if you are not open to it. It does not matter what they are saying about you. The best way to learn from criticism is to be ready to listen. Don’t fill your mind with negative thoughts. They will block you from learning. When you listen, learning happens. Be open to it. It is an opportunity for you to learn something about yourself- your work, your relationships, your thoughts or your life.

Remember what Carnegie said about how to really handle criticism. He said, “Remember that unjust criticism is often a disguised compliment.” We don’t know why people are criticizing us. But when they do, don’t meet it with anger, meet it with love, grace, and happiness.

Are you ready to meet criticism with love?

When You Fall, Get Back Up

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“Life swings like a pendulum backward and forward between pain and boredom.”-

Arthur Schopenhauer

Life is all about falling down and getting back up. It is okay when we fall down, but when you fall down, don’t stay there. Don’t make it your home. It is not your home. When you fall down, rejoice! Be happy. Be glad. It means you are trying to change your position. It means that you want to leave where you are now to somewhere better. It means you are tired of doing the same old things that are not giving you what you want. It means you are tied of hanging out with negative people. It means you want to go chase your dreams. It means you know that there are better days ahead of you. Wow!

“We learn by making mistakes. We learn by falling down. We learn by being ourselves.”

You should celebrate yourself for falling down. It is a sign of progress. If you continue to fall down and get up, you will continue to grow. That is how explorers learn how to explore the world. They start with one step at a time. We learn by making mistakes. We learn to get better by taking risks. If you don’t fall, you can’t learn how to walk. If you don’t fall, you won’t know how to get up. If you don’t fall, you will not know what it means to fall.

Life is all about falling down. If you don’t want to fall, if you don’t want to fail, you don’t want to grow. Growth comes from failing. Real growth comes from falling. Real growth comes from making mistakes and learning from them. Real growth brings happiness. If we are not falling, we are not growing. If we are not failing, it means we are not doing enough. Whatever it is you want to do, just do it. Don’t be afraid of falling. You can’t rise if you don’t fall down.

“Never stop trying. Never stop doing. Never stop loving your life. Never stop loving your work.”

Falling is a part of life. Many people are not successful because they don’t want to fall. They don’t want to fail. They don’t want people to laugh at them. If you really want to change your life, you must be in love with making mistakes and learning from your mistakes. More mistakes, more experiences. The more mistakes you make, the more you will continue to discover in life. Never stop failing forward. Never stop trying. Never stop doing. Never stop loving what you do. Keep falling forward!