There is no way to self-improvement and strength but by loving and celebrating yourself, your life, your accomplishments in the present moment.
Stop complaining. stop fighting for what is not yours. You are not perfect. Instead of trying to be perfect, why not focus on improving your life. If you can do that for yourself, it will help you a lot. It will bring peace and harmony into your life.
Epictectus once said, “If you wish to improve yourself, be content to be seen as ignorant or clueless about some things.”
What you know is your power. So do not worry about what you do not know. But it does not mean you should ignore it. But do not let it bother you.
Remember that life is not going to give you everything. So do not worry about what is not there. You have a lot going well for you. Focus on them. Reflect on them. Celebrate them. Sharon Salzberg says, “When you recognize and reflect on even one good thing about yourself, you are building a bridge to a place of kindness and caring.” She is right.
If you want to enjoy your life, if you want to make peace with your inner self, you must learn how to reflect on what is going well for you. When you do that, you will have more to celebrate.
In the words of Cleo Wade, “There is no way to give kindness to another without knowing it in ourselves first.” Kindness starts with you. Kindness is a healer. So when you feel down, when you feel nothing is working for you, when you are exhausted, when you need to take a break, use the power of kindness to lift yourself back up. Because there is power in kindness.
If you want other people to treat you with respect, you must first treat yourself with respect and dignity. Because kindness is about doing the right thing. It is not about pretending to be who we are not. Kindness is not about faking things. It is about making things real. It is about bringing people together. It connects hearts.
Kindnessis a thing of the heart. So whatever you are going through right now, treat yourself with kindness. Show yourself some love. Give yourself what you want from other people. If you want to be loved, love yourself first. If you want to be appreciated, appreciate yourself first.
Don’t focus on what you are going through, focus on what you are becoming. As Friedrich Nietzsche famously said, “To live is to suffer, to survive is to find some meaning in the suffering.” He also said, “That which does not kill us makes us stronger.” What does not kill you, makes you stronger. Whatever it is that you are facing right now,don’t give up, find meaning in it. Because “to live is to suffer.”