Tag: Future

Whether You Like It Or Not, You Need A Plan

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by Bich Tran

Yes, you need a plan. It is important for you to have. If you have not created one, it is never too late to start something new.

You need a plan. A plan is your guide, is your director, is your map, is your GPS.

When you are creating your plan, do not be too rigid. Be flexible. Be open to strangers. Be open to future changes.

To achieve success, to reach your destination, Earl Nightingale said, “All you need is a plan- the road map- and the courage to press on to your destination, knowing in advance that there will be problems and setbacks, but knowing also that nothing on earth can stand in the way of a plan, backed by persistence and determination.”

If you want your plan to work, you must back it with love, with compassion, with focus, with energy, with courage, with faith. If not, it won’t work.

So when is it the right time to plan? Every time. Every day. And always.

Planning is important.

Morgan Housel says, “Planning is important, but the most important part of every plan is to plan on the plan not going according to plan.” “Planning is everything.” Remember that everything is not going to go according to plan. So you must “plan on the plan not going according to plan,”

It is good to plan, but if it cannot face today’s reality, then it is not a good plan. You must change it. You must revise it. You must let go of what is not working.

If your plan is not working, if your plan is not doing what it is supposed to do, if you are not getting the right results, then let it go. Let it go.

Because the future is unknown. The future is foggy. The future is uncertain. According to Morgan Housel, ” A plan is only useful if it can survive reality.” If your plan can’t survive reality, your reality, then drop it. Do not continue with it.

When do we need to plan?

Now. David Allen says, “When you most need to plan is usually when you think you don’t have time to plan.” You have time to plan. If you are not planning to succeed, then you are planning to fail. Why is that? Because “planning is everything.”

2 Anger Management Lessons From Dalai Lama

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by Andrea Piacquadio

When you are angry, the Dalai Lama says, “Keep a calm mind, study the situation, then take a countermeasure. If you let a wrongdoing happen, it might continue and increase, so, out of compassion, take appropriate countermeasures.”

You can’t live without anger. But how you act matters. What you do matters. When you are angry, try to control yourself. You can’t control the other person. But you can control yourself, your actions.

Do not let your anger take over your life. When you are angry, ask yourself, Is this the right way to conduct myself?

If it is not the right way, then stay away. Forgive yourself. Forgive the other person. It is difficult, but doable.

Do not go to bed with someone else’s problem.

Do not let anger ruin your life, your day, your future. No matter what, always try to stay calm when others are going crazy. The Dalai Lama says, “Tolerance means that you should not develop anger or hatred. But if another person does something harmful to us,’ and we do nothing, the person may take even more adavantage of us, and even more negative action may come.”

Treat yourself as you want to be treated. Remember, whatever you tolerate, people will do more of it to you. If you want others to treat you with love, you must first treat yourself with love. If not, it won’t happen.

Further Reading:

Goleman, D., A Force for Good: The Dalai Lama’s Vision for Our World (New York: Bantam Books, 2015): 86-87.