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5 Easy Ways To Take Responsibility For Yourself

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by RF_ Studio

You are the only one who can make yourself happy. But it is not your responsibility to make other people happy.

What does it really mean to take responsibility for one’s life?

Responsibility is facing what you do not want to face. Responsibility is doing what you are afraid to do. Responsibility is taking risks to change your life. It is looking after yourself. It is conquering yourself. Taking responsibility for your life is not an event. It is a process.

You can do it. You are the only one who can do it for you. When you take responsibility for your life, things will work for you, not against you. No matter how busy you are, do not forget to look after yourself. Do not forget to take responsibility for your life.

If you don’t do it for you, you are going to be left behind. Do you want to be left behind? If you do not want to be left behind, here are some strategies that will help you:

Take responsibility for your actions

Do not complain. You have the power to choose your life. You have the power to change the negative things that you have been telling yourself. You have the power to choose your career. Since you have the power to choose other things, do you have the same power to choose yourself? Yes, you can choose yourself. You can choose your life.

Moliere said, “It is not only what we do, but also what we do not do, for which we are accountable.” If you want to be different, if you want to become what you were created to be, you must take responsibility for yourself.

Challenge yourself

You cannot grow yourself without work. If you want to grow yourself, you must not wait for other people to do everything for you. They can’t. And they won’t. Why is that? Because they have their own issues to deal with. As Billy Graham Put it, “Only those who want everything done for them are bored.”

If you don’t want to be bored, you must stretch yourself. You must push yourself. You must face what other people don’t want to face. You must do what other people don’t want to do. You must step out of your comfort zone. You must be comfortable with yourself. Because if you are not comfortable with yourself, you can’t stretch yourself.

Be courageous

It takes courage to do everything. So if you want to take responsibility for your life, you have got to face your demons. Do not be timid. Be bold. Live fearlessly. Do not let your past failures stop you from taking responsibility for your life.

No matter what, do not condemn your life. Always celebrate yourself. If you condemn yourself, you lose your soul. Be bold enough to take responsibility for your life. Be bold enough to say, enough is really enough.

Whatever you want to do, do not fear to do it. Be bold. According to Billy Graham, “Courage is contagious. When a brave man takes a stand, the spines of others are often stiffened.” When you take a stand, your fears will disappear.

Accept your disappointments

Richard Branson says, “Do not be embarrassed by your failures, learn from them and start again.”If you want to grow, do not be embarrassed by your disappointments. They are going to happen. You can’t stop them from happening. But do not let them stop your life. Do not waste a minute not being true to yourself.

If you are making mistakes, you are growing. You are learning. You are changing. Friedrich Shiller said, “Disappointments are to the soul what a thunderstorm is to the air.” Accept disappointments and you will be happy with yourself. The question is, Do you have the courage to accept disappointments?

“Dare to be wise!”

If you want to take responsibility for your life, you must have the courage to tell yourself the truth. You must have the courage to love your life, no matter what. You must have the courage to live your life on your own terms. You must have the courage to face your fears. You must have the courage to walk away from those who are not for you.

If you can do it, you can grow. Friedrich Schiller said, “Dare to be wise! Energy and spirit is needed to overcome the obstacles which indolence of nature as well as cowardice of heart oppose to our instruction.”

5 Ways To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by Maksim Goncharenok

If you want to grow, you must stop comparing yourself to others. Instead of comparing yourself to others because they can do what you can’t do, why not focus on what you can do that they cannot do. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. No one is perfect.

Remember, life is not about trying to be perfect, but about trying to do your best.

Focus on what you are good at. Do not focus on what you cannot do. Because success comes from doing what you are really good at. Do not worry about who is doing what. With hard work, you can make your own dream happen.

Do what you know how to do. Take it to the next level. Do what you love to do, not what other people want you to do. Remember, you are not here to pursue other people’s dreams. You are here to pursue your own dreams. If you really want to stop comparing yourself to others, try these strategies:

You must trust yourself

It is really difficult to be you in a world that is trying to change you. No matter what, do not follow the crowd. You must follow your own heart. One reason so many people never listen to themselves is the fear of other people’s opinions.

Do not let other people’s opinions of you bother you. Instead of trying to convince other people to like you, why not concentrate on yourself, on your growth, on where you are going? That is what you should be doing. According to Leo Buscaglia, “The hardest battle you’re going to fight is the battle to be just you.” Conquer yourself, not others. If you can conquer yourself, you can conquer others.

You must understand yourself

Everything starts with understanding. LIfe is about understanding who you really are. If you do not understand yourself, you will find it really hard to understand other people. According to Nikki Giovanni, “If you don’t understand yourself, you don’t understand anybody else.” If you want to know other people, you must first know yourself. The question is, do you really know who you are?

You must focus on your purpose

Do not wait for the right time to act. Do not wait for the right time to start something. The reason you are here is to pursue your purpose. If you are not pursuing your purpose, you are just wasting your time.

Do not let anyone scare you away from your purpose. It is your purpose. It is the reason you are here. Whether you are chasing your purpose or not, your time on earth is limited. You are not going to be here forever.

So you must use the time you have to do great things, to change yourself, to change lives. Do not waste it. Barbara Sher said, “Time is the only wealth we’re given.” Use your time to pursue your purpose. It is your responsibility to pursue your purpose.

According to Mary Oliver, “Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life.” Yes, what are you really with your time? Who are the people around you? If you want to grow, you must surround yourself with great people. If not, you will never leave where you are.

You must live your life fearlessly

You are not going to be successful if you are waiting for everything to be perfect before you start something. You are not going to be successful if you do not have the courage to face your fears. If you want to succeed, you must face them. You must live your life fearlessly. You must have the courage to face yourself, to conquer yourself.

Because if you don’t have what it takes to conquer yourself, you are not going to be able to conquer others. You are not going to be able to live fearlessly. Henry J. Kaiser once said, “Live daringly, boldly, fearlessly. Take the relish to be found in competition- in having put forth the best within you.” If you don’t have the courage to face your future, don’t forget that your success is on the other side of fear. So if you want to be successful, you MUST grow the courage to face your fears.

You must follow your own dream

You must have a dream because if you don’t have a dream, you are going to be chasing other people’s dreams. Unless you have the courage to dream big dreams, you are not going to achieve your greatness. If you want to get to the next level, you must not fear to dream. Henry J. Kaiser once said, “I akways have to dream up against the star. If I don’t dream I will make it, I won’t even get close…”