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3 Powerful Life Lessons From John Stange

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Live your own life. Do not do things just because other people are doing it.

From now on, make a point to always love yourself, to always enjoy yourself, to be comfortable with yourself, to accept yourself, to face your life, no matter what.

You do not need other people to connect with yourself. But you do need YOU to connect with yourself. Without you, the real you, not the worldly you, you cannot connect with your real self. You cannot see yourself.

Whether things are good or not, make a point to always be there for you. Do not let anyone drag you down. And do not drag yourself down. Learn to live your life.

If you want to live a peaceful life, John Stange says,

Just continue to be you

“You don’t need to add anything to the drama of what took place by texting your friends about it or changing your demeanor toward those who offended you. Just continue to be you. Don’t let this drag you down. Make a point to be kind, even to those who weren’t kind to you.”- John Stange

Invest your time in your real friends

“What your friends did to you was wrong, but it was also a favor in disguise. She let you know that your friendship wasn’t genuine and that you’d be better off investing your time in your real friends.”- John Stange

You are loved more deeply than you realize

“You are loved more deeply than you realize. I love you, your mother loves you, and, most importantly, the Lord loves you. Our love for you is not conditional. We will never stop loving you.”- John Stange

Honor Your True Self

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Honor means love. Honor means respect. Honor means integrity. If you love yourself, honor yourself. If you love what you are doing, honor it. If you love your body, honor your body.

Honor is how you treat yourself. It is how you take care of yourself every day.

Honor your journey. Honor where you are, not where you are going.

It is difficult to do, especially when things are not where they are supposed to be. It is not easy to do when you are not getting the right results.

It does not matter. It is when things are not going well for you that you are supposed to be there for yourself. Do not wait for things to be perfect before you honor yourself.

Honor yourself today, now, not tomorrow, not next week, not next month, not next year. Start today. And do not wait for other people to honor you before you appreciate yourself.

If you don’t have the courage to honor yourself, to love yourself, to appreciate yourself, to be grateful for your life, to face your life, to live for yourself, to be kind to yourself, to embrace integrity, to face your future, to have the courage to reject the past, no one is going to do it for you.

Why is that? Because it is your life. It is your responsibility to do what makes you smile, what makes you happy, what makes you come alive.

If you start honoring yourself, do not go back to where you were yesterday. In her book The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self, Martha Beck writes, “If you start honoring your true nature and find yourself missiing your old culture, don’t panic. Be kind to yourself. Allow yourself time and space to grieve. Confide in loved ones. If they don’t understand, find a coach or therapist. But don’t think that missing your old life means you should go back to it. Everyone who decides to embrace integrity must mourn the known misery, the familiar patterns and dysfunctional relationships they’ve left behind.”

If you want to change your life, doing the old things won’t get you anywhere. If you want to change your situation, doing the old things is not the right path to take.

If something is not working, change it. If you don’t like where you are, make it better. Or if you can’t make it better, then move on. Stop hurting yourself.

Be kind to yourself. Honoring yourself is being honest with yourself. So if you are not doing what you think you are supposed to be doing, tell yourself the truth. Do not forget that there is always a better way to do something. Yes, there is. Look for it. And you will find it.