Tag: Behavior

If You Make A Mistake, Own It, Or It Will Own You

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Health & Well-Being, Personal Development, Personal Growth
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“Through our failures we learn more about what we don’t know.”

Own your mistakes. They are yours. When you make mistakes, don’t blame others for them. Blame yourself for them. When you blame yourself for your mistakes, you will have no other choice than to face your mistakes, to learn from them, to understand them, to own them, to fix them, and move on.

But if you do the opposite, if you abandon your mistakes and walk away, if you blame others for your own mess, for your own problems, for your ignorance, for your own carelessness, you neglect yourself, your spirit, your happiness, your joy, your health, and your inner life. If you are afraid of making mistakes, you are afraid of growing.

The only way to real growth is through the gate of mistakes. Are you scared of that gate?

When you blame other people for your mess, when you blame your partner, your kids, your government, your boss, your friends, you reduce yourself. You will learn more from your mistakes if you take responsibility for them. Don’t blame anyone but yourself. It is hard to do, but if you can take responsibility for your behavior, you open the door to your personal and professional growth. Mistake is a way forward, not backward. Make it!

This Is What Life Requires From You

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Health & Well-Being, Personal Development, Workplace Learning Report
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Life is simple. Life is not difficult. We are making things difficult for ourselves.

If we can just listen to NATURE, we won’t be in any trouble, we won’t suffer, we won’t fight against ourselves. We are in trouble because we try to change the things that we cannot change. We are in trouble because we are trying to make other people live our lives. We want them to look like us, to behave the way we behave, to do what we asked them to do.

Life does not require us to be perfect. Life does not require us to love people conditionally. Life does not require us to spend a short time with our love ones. Life does not require us to choose a career that we don’t like. Life does not require us to hate ourselves and others. Life does not require us to make things difficult for ourselves. Life does not require us to make simple things hard for ourselves.

So, what does life require that we do? To answer this question, let me quote H. Jackson Brown, Jr. According to H. Jackson Brown, Jr., “Life doesn’t require that we be the best, only that we try our best.” He is right.

But the problem with that quote is that we now live in a very fast world. We want to be perfect. Our managers want us to be perfect. There is no room for us to make mistakes anymore. We are constantly under pressure- work pressure, family pressure, developmental pressure, social pressure, and psychological pressure.

So how can we live a peaceful life?

We can live a peaceful life if we want to. It is simple. It starts with the choices that you make. Life does not require you to be the best in your organization. Life requires that you do your best, be your best, live your best, and celebrate your best. That is it!

Don’t do the things that you don’t like. Let them fit your values. Because whatever you do that are against your values, you are not going to be comfortable doing it. And if you are not comfortable doing your work, why are you doing it?

Remember this: don’t try to be the best, but try to do your best work every day.

That is what life requires from you!