4 Easy Ways To Make Peace With Yourself

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Peace starts with you. To make peace with yourself, you must first make peace with your inner self, with your friends, and with every other things around you.

Yes, you can’t make peace with everybody, but you can make peace with yourself. You can choose yourself.

Yes, you can’t make everybody happy, but you can make yourself happy. Isn’t that good enough? Let’s find out.

Put other people first

Hafsat Abiola said, “Peace comes from being able to contribute the best that we have, and all that we are, toward creating a world that supports everyone. But it is also securing the space for others to contribute the best that they have and all that they are.” When you help other people, you are helping yourself. When you make other people feel complete, you are making yourself whole. When you work really hard to bring out the best in other people, you are bringing out the best in yourself.

Forgive. Forgive. Forgive.

Judith Butler said, “No matter what someone else has done, it still matters how we treat people.” Forgiveness is the key to positive relationships. It is also the key to a better life. It is hard to do, but if you can do it, freedom will come to you. No matter what people may have done to you, to move forward, you must first forgive them. No matter what you may have done to yourself, to live a better life, you must first forgive yourself. If not, you won’t be able to move forward in your life. Wendell Berry was right when he said, “To have peace you must make peace with your enemy.” To have peace, you must make peace with yourself.

Focus on what is important to you

According to Gautama Buddha, “This is peace, this is the excellent, namely the calm of all the impulses, the casting out of all ‘basis’, the extinction of craving, dispassion, stopping, Nirvana.” Focus on what makes you whole. Do not worry yourself about what didn’t go well. It is not the end of the world. Focus on how you are going to make it better next time. When you are at peace with yourself, everything will “flow with ease.” Remember that peace is not something you search for. Peace is something you make for yourself. It is something you create for yourself. It is a state of mind. Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, “Peace is to be found only within, and unless one find it there he will never find it at all.”

Be comfortable with who you are, not with what you have

Love is life. You are here to love yourself, not to beat yourself to the ground. Whether things are going well or not, still find some time to give yourself some love. Be comfortable with yourself. Love yourself. Before you can love anyone else, you must first love yourself. Believe in love. It is real. Love never disappoints. Robert Collier said, “Love never fails.” It is true. If you believe in love, it will never fail you. The question is, do you believe in the power of love?

4 Ways To Grow Yourself

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If you are not happy with what you are doing, with where you are, do not resist it. It is time to move on to the next level. And to move on to the next level, you must not resist change.

“You have to be completely discouraged before you can progress.”– Carolyn Schlam

You can move on, you can grow yourself only if you have the courage to do the following:

Give something up

Carolyn Schlam says, “If we want to grow, we must give something up.” Whatever it is that is holding you back from achieving your greatness in life, let it go. Give it up.

Do not put yourself down

“When we put ourselves down, we meditate on what is lacking instead of being grateful for what we have; we compare ourselves to others and out come out less than; we beat upon ourselves and work ourselves into a state of self-condemnation that blocks answers to our prayer.”- Dr Pat Francis

You do not have any reason to put yourself down. Life is too short to do that. To find happines in your life, do not focus on what is not there. Do not compare yourself to other people. They have their own problems. You have yours. Let them face their problems. While you mind your own business. Do not worry about other people. Focus on where you are, what you are doing, and where you are going. That is good enough.

Keep learning”

If you want to expand your world, do not stop learning. According to Harry Beckwith and Christine K. Clifford, “Education does more than prepare us for career and expand our minds. It enlarges our world- the number of people with whom we can connect. Because education covers so much ground, it helps us find more of the ground that is common to others whom we meet.”

Slow Down

According to Mark Nepo, “When impatient, the explorer in us demands that the problem solver in us work faster. But the native in us works more closely with what is. The native in us is in no hurry to get anywhere, wanting only to inhabit wherever we are to the fullest.” Listen to your inner self. It takes time to get real things done. Take your time to do the things that are important to you. Do not measure yourself against time. If you do, you will fail. Why is that? Because time will always win.