Why You Cannot Find Your Purpose In Life, And What You Can Do About It

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To do well in life, you must first find your purpose in life. If you don’t know why you are here, if you don’t know what you want from life, if you don’t know how to get what you want from life, you will find it hard to succeed in life.

Why is that? Because life is all about knowing where you are going and how to get to there.

Let me ask you a simple but difficult question. Do you know what you want from life?

Napoleon Hill said, “Everyone wants the better things in life- money, fame, respect- but most people never go beyond just wishing for them.” If you want to find your “Why,” don’t just talk about what you want from life, but take a determined action to make it a reality.

Wishing is fruitless. Action is fruitful. Wishing is meaningless. Action is meaningful.

“Successful people move on their own initiative, but they know where they are going before they start.”- Napoleon Hill

Do you have your own initiative?

Are you ready and willing to move on your own initiative?

Do you know where you are going? Do you know how to get there? Once you are there, do you have what it takes to stay there?

Here is why it is so hard for you to find your OWN purpose in life:

  1. You allow people to make your decisions for you. If you want to find your purpose in life, take care of your decisions. No matter what, don’t allow anyone to make your decisions for you.
  2. You don’t trust yourself. Please, if you don’t trust yourself, no one will trust you. Trust is what you need to succeed in life. People like to work with someone they trust. If you want people to trust you, you must first trust yourself.
  3. You still live in the past. Don’t live in the past if you are to explore today for future opportunities. Yesterday cannot change your life. Only today can change your life. So, focus on today.
  4. You dwell on your past and present mistakes. It is okay to make mistakes, but it is not okay to make making mistakes a habit.
  5. You want to be perfect. If you want to be perfect at what you do, you will never master it. No one is perfect. Accept what you have, and work really hard to be better next time.
  6. You imitate other people. You can’t find your purpose in life if all you do is imitating others. It is not good. The more you focus on what other people are doing, the more you are ignoring your own needs and wants.
  7. You don’t value your time. If you really value your time on earth, you will not waste it on what you are not passionate about. According to late Steve Jobs, “Our time on earth is limited.” Use your time wisely!
  8. You are stuck in the job you don’t like. You cannot find your purpose in life if you continue to do what is not making you happy. If you don’t like what you are doing right now, make it better or leave.
  9. You quit when the going gets really tough. You quit when the pain becomes unbearable. No, don’t quit. You are not a quitter. No matter how hard, stay in it to finish it.
  10. You don’t like to take risks. If you don’t try something new, how would you know what you are good at? If you really want to find your purpose in life, according to Mark Cuban, “Do everything.”
  11. You don’t want to fail. If you try and fail, celebrate it. It is better to try and fail than to not try anything and still fail. You cannot succeed without failing at something. If you don’t want to fail, you don’t want to succeed.
  12. You are looking for the person the world wants you to be. Don’t look for the person the world wants you to be. Just be yourself. Don’t find yourself, create the person you really want to become.
  13. You don’t like change. If you don’t like to change, how do you expect to grow? There is no growth without change. If you want to find your purpose in life, you must embrace change.
  14. You think it is too late to start again. If you don’t like what you are doing now, change it. Start again. Do it again. It is never to late to start again.
  15. Your aim is too low. If you aim too low in life, you will not achieve much in life. If you want to achieve success in life, aim higher. The higher you aim, the better it is for you.
  16. You focus on security. If you want to grow, don’t focus on security, focus on opportunity. There is no security in life. Look for opportunities.
  17. You try to please everybody. Help people, but don’t ignore your needs and wants.

How To Discover Your Purpose In Life

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How to find or how to discover your purpose in life. It sounds simple, but a lot of people are struggling to do it. Why is it important to have a strong purpose in life? Why are people not getting it?

Let us start with a great quote from Napoleon Hill.

Your success in life starts with a clear purpose in life. If you don’t have a clear purpose in life, it means you don’t know what you want from life. It means you don’t know how to get what you want from life. It means you don’t even know how to get to where you are going in life.

Napoleon Hill famously said, “Definiteness of purpose is the starting point of all achievement, and its lack is the stumbling block for ninety-eight out of every hundred people simply because they never really define their goals and start toward them.”

To be successful life, you must first define what you want from life. You must have a clear reason why you are here on earth. But if you don’t define what you want, how can you get there?

You have to know what you are looking for, and do everything you can to get it done. Don’t just talk about what you want, work to get it done.

Napoleon Hill said, “Definiteness is the major difference between a scientist and a drifter.” If you continue to change your mind, if you don’t take action to change your life, you are planning to fail. You have to have a clear plan if you are to move forward in life. As the saying goes, “If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail.” In order to stop that, you must stick to your goals, your plans, your purpose, and your dreams.

People fail in life because they don’t have a clear purpose. They talk about what they want, but they don’t take action to make their talk a reality. Know this: nothing will change unless you change. Your life will be the same unless you change. To succeed in life, you need to be clear about what you want to accomplish in life. If you know what you want, the job is half done.

Why Purpose Matters

  1. Purpose will inspire you to pursue your goals in life
  2. Your purpose is the real you. It represents your identity
  3. Purpose helps you separate your job from who you really are
  4. Purpose is a motivator
  5. Purpose is your resource center.
  6. Purpose is your lens. You see the world through your purpose.
  7. Purpose gives you strengths to face anything in life
  8. You express your values through your purpose.

To find your purpose in life, here are some suggestions for you to explore:

  • Follow your passion. If you really want to find your purpose in life, it is time to start doing that thing you have always been talking about. It is not going to be easy, but it is better than not trying it
  • Focus on one thing at a time. If you want to explore your purpose in life, it will serve you well if you can focus on one thing at a time. Because if you focus on so many things at the same time, you won’t really understand any of them. Your goal is to know what you want in life, not to play with your time.
  • Don’t let people decide for you. If you allow this to happen, you will never find your purpose in life. Why? Because whatever you end up doing does not represent who you are. If you really want to find your purpose in life, be in control of your life. If you delegate your life to someone else, you will live someone else’s dreams. Do you want to do that?
  • Concentrate on what you are doing right now. It could be that you are already working in your God given career. Whatever it is that you are doing right now, see if you can make it better to fit your purpose in life. If not, move on.
  • Don’t dwell in the past. We all make mistakes. Don’t let your yesterday’s mistakes steal your life away from you. Yesterday is gone. Focus on today, not on yesterday. If you waste your time on yesterday’s problems, you will miss today’s opportunities. If you don’t want your tomorrow to be better than today, focus on what you are doing right now. Your future will be better.
  • Listen to your inner director. If you want the real answers that you have been looking for, look inside for solutions to finding your purpose in life. People fail because they look outside for solutions. If you want to find your purpose in life, look inside, not outside.

Find your purpose in life, stick to it, and make it a reality.