Tag: Self-confidence

Time To Move On

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by Yan Krukov

You have the power to change your life. Without taking responsibility for your life, nothing gets done.

When it comes to getting things done, it is okay to make mistakes. Because without mistakes, you are not going to get anything done. And do not forget why you are here. To get things done.

If you are not getting anything done, then it is time to move on. It is time to be honest with yourself. It is time to stop chasing what is not for you. It is time to face your reality. It is time to seek help from other people. And it is time to start challenging yourself.

If you want to improve yourself, you have to focus on your own improvement. Ask the right questions. Take chances. Do not fear risks. Because if you do not take risks, you are not going to get what you want.

Remember that your job is to improve yourself. It is not to focus on what others are doing. What matters is what you are doing. And if you aren’t getting the right results, then move on. Do not waste your time. Because you are not going to be here forever. All you have is today. So why not make it a special day for yourself and for the people around you?

If you are bigger than what you are doing right now, then do not waste your time. Move on. Try something different. Move to another company, if you can do it. In his book Higher is Waiting, Tyler Perry writes, “If you’re not growing anymore, if it feels as if the walls are closing in on you, if your roots are pressing up against one another and its uncomfortable, if you’re not getting enough spiritual nourishment and encouragement, then it’s probably time to move to a bigger pot- a larger world.”

If you are not learning anymore, then it is time to move on. Before you move, ask the right question. For example, “Why am I moving?” Yes, why are you moving? Is it the right time?

4 Signs Of A Truly Confident Person

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by mentatdgt

True confidence doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time to grow. It takes time to cultivate. If you do not have it, do not beat yourself up. Just be patient with yourself. Do not be scared to do things that can help you gain your true confidence.

As William Hazllit once said, “As is our confidence, so is our capacity.” When you believe in yourself, when you have confidence in yourself, there is nothing you cannot do. You are not afraid of new ideas. You are not afraid to try new things. You are not afraid to challenge the status quo. And you are not afraid to commit yourself to a long-term growth. That is where you should be.

Be fearless, but don’t be careless.

Truly confident people do things differently. They behave differently. They attack problems differently. And they see things differently. According to Amy Cuddy, “A truly confident person does not require arrogance, which is nothing more than a smoke screen for insecurity. A confident person- knowing and believing in her identity- carries tools, not weapons. A confident person does not need to one-up anyone else. A confident person can be present to others, hear their perspectives, and integrate those views in ways that create value for everyone.”

Do not fake it till you make it. If you do not have it, with practice, you will have it.

Further Reading:

Cuddy, A., Presence: Bringing your BOLDEST SELF to your BIGGEST CHALLENGES (New York: Hachette Book Group, 2015): 33.