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Always Evaluate Yourself In A Productive Way

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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‘If you aren’t evaluating yourself in a productive way, the loses and ‘failures’ erode your self-confidence. When you aren’t as confident, you can’t perform as well and you fail more often– starting a vicious cycle.’- Dr. Jason Selk and Tom Bartow

If you don’t have the courage to ask for feedback, you won’t know how well you are doing. So if you want to know where you stand, how well you are doing, whether you are moving forward or backward, whether you are growing or dying, whether you are progressing or stagnating, you must ask other people to evaluate you.

Do not ask your friends. Ask people you don’t know, who are not really your friends. Or if you have a sincere friend, then you can ask him or her to tell you how he or she thinks you are doing. If not, you are just going to be ‘flying blind.’ You won’t know what is going on in your life. And that is not good.

If you want to be successful, please do not fly blind, ask questions.

Why You Should Never Judge Yourself

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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Do not judge yourself. You are good enough for yourself. Don’t worry about what other people are saying. Just focus on getting better every day.

Remember, no one is a perfect being. We all have our hidden flaws. You can’t control other people, but you can control yourself. You can control what you tell yourself. You can trust yourself. You can believe in yourself.

Remember why you are alive. Your purpose is to be your real self, not to worry about other people’s opinions. Worry about them, or growth, happiness, is yours to miss.

When you judge yourself, you are not helping yourself. You are assaulting yourself. According to Don Miguel Ruiz, ‘Self-judgment is an assault, and so is self-contempt. It’s an attack on the body to pity ourselves, to worry, or to obsess.’

No matter what you have been through in your life, no matter what you are going through right now, do not assault yourself. Do not judge yourself.

You are who you are for a reason. Do not change anything about yourself. When you do, you are no longer you, the real you. You are someone else.

You are no longer living your own life. You are living other people’s lives.

Your purpose is to live your life, not to judge your life.