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If You Want To Find Yourself, You Must Stop Pleasing People

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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Help people, but don’t please them. Why are you wasting your time to please people? Why? You need people to help you succeed in your life. Pleasing people is not the right way to get there. Pleasing people is not the right way to build a positive relationship. Some people will like you for who you are; others will hate you for who you are. Don’t worry. Keep moving forward. Your life is not in their hands. You must focus on making yourself better.

You say yes to everything. You can’t say no to people. You don’t want to let people down. You want people to like you. You want to fit in. You care about what other people think of you. You want to look good in the eyes of other people. You don’t want people to reject you. Wow!

“Please all, and you will hurt yourself.”

Know this: “Until you start saying yes to yourself, you will never find yourself. Until you stop pleasing people, you will never know your true self.

In reality, when you don’t focus on yourself, you are stopping yourself from moving forward. You are stopping yourself from growing. You are stopping yourself from building a meaningful life. To stop that, you must be comfortable with who you are. You must practice your core values. Let your values guide your life. Aesop said, “Please all, and you will please none.” Please yourself to grow yourself. Please all, and you will hurt yourself.

4 Easy Tips To Change Your Life

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Change Management, Health & Well-Being, Personal Development, Personal Growth
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If you don’t like what is happening in your life right now, change it. If you don’t change it, you will continue to get the same results that you have always be getting. But if you cannot change what is happening around you, why not change yourself? Because you cannot change the world without first changing yourself. In other words, change starts with you.

Here are your 4 easy tips to change your life:

If you want to change your life, you must accept responsibility for your life.

You must take full control of your life. You can blame everyone around you, but it is not going to change you. Blame does not change things. Blame makes things worse. It hurts you. If you really want to live up to your potential, stop blaming people. According to Jim Stovall, “Only by accepting full responsibility for your past, which resulted in your present, can you then take control of your actions today and create a successful tomorrow.”

If you really want to change your life, you must accept change.

If you are not changing, you are not living. Nothing in life remains the same, including you. Everything is changing. So if you want to live your best life, you must not settle in the past. You must embrace change and flow with it. Don’t resist change. If you do, you are not helping your life. You are hurting yourself by resisting your opportunities to make your life better. C.S. Lewis once said, “You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.” But the choice is yours.

If you want to change your life, just be yourself.

If you want to change your life, don’t live other people’s lives. Try whatever is within your power to live your own life. Don’t suppress your life. Live your full life. Express yourself. You cannot be you if you don’t express you. We live to express ourselves, not to suppress ourselves. Remember, if you don’t live your full life, you will never know the difference you can make in the world. Live to express, not to suppress.

If you really want to reinvent your life, you must swallow the pills of self-discipline.

Success starts with self-discipline. You want to move forward, right? You must first discipline yourself. You must learn to do the things you don’t like to do. That is beginning of self-discipline. If you know how to do the necessary things first, then you can change your life. As James Allen once said, “With the practice of self-discipline a man begins to live.” You will begin to live your life when you practice self-discipline. It is hard, but do it. It is the only way to greatness.