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Are You A Servant Leader?

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Leadership
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In his book Think Like a Horse: Lessons in Life, Leadership , and Empathy from an Unconventional Cowboy, Grant Golliher writes, ‘Servant leadership is putting yourself into service for others to create the environment where they can be natural and be authentic and allow them to discover the beautiful genius that lives inside of them- to instill belief and confidence in the individual that they’re the best thing that the world needs, and they just need to be the best version of themselves. And if anything gets in their way, a servant leader’s job is to remove those barriers.’

People are people. We are all seeking love. We all want people to treat us with respect. We want to work for the best. And we want to be around the best.

People want to work, but they don’t want to do it for a bully, someone who is not interested in them.

As a leader, whether you are leading one person, whether you are leading a country, if you want your people to follow you to the gate of hell, if you want your people to help you succeed, if you want your people to always bring their best brains to work, you must respect them.

If you do not see them as human beings, they are not going to trust you. And if your people don’t trust you, you are in trouble.

‘… the greatest quality that earns leadership is humility.’

Why is that? Because leadership is all about trust. People are not going to give you their best if they don’t trust you. Remember, if you want them to trust you, you must earn it.

Leadership is about your people, not about you. If you want them to put you first, you must treat them with respect.

It Is Okay To Be A Perfectionist, But Do Not Forget Your Purpose

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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It is okay to be a perfectionist, but do not forget why you are doing what you are doing. And do not forget where you are going.

If you want to get a lot more done in your life, you must focus on getting better at what you are doing.

Perfection is not possible. It is a dream that will never come true. If your dream is to be great at what you do, getting better is the way, the only way.

Here is why you shouldn’t worry about being perfect at what you are doing:

According to Dr. Kenneth R. Ginsburg, ‘Perfectionists reject anything less than a flawless product or performance. They don’t enjoy the process of creating because they worry endlessly about not performing as well as they think they should.’

When you are creating something new, when you are modifying something old, focus on what you are doing.

Learning happens when we are doing, not when we are done.

‘When perfectionists do well, they may not even notice because they are so worried about mistakes they might make or focused on how they could do better.’

If you do not pay attention to where you are in your life, to what you are doing, you will never achieve your dreams.

Success starts with attention. Achievements happen when we pay attention to what we are doing.

‘Perfectionism is a state of unease driven by an intense sense of being unacceptable.’- Dr. Kenneth R. Ginsburg

Failures happen when we don’t see what is in front of us.

‘Perfectionists see every mistake as evidence they’re are unworthy or not good enough.’

Growth happens when you accept your mistakes as learning opportunities.

Success happens when you accept a mistake as a bridge to where you are going.

Successful people are not scared of mistakes. In fact, they welcome them.

‘Perfectionists fear adversity. They lack the flexibility to rebound from difficulty because challenges paralyze them. The thought of not doing something well prevents them from taking chances that successful people take to reach their greatest potential.’

You cannot live a great life without adversity. Adversity is not your enemy. Adversity is your frenemy.

When you face your adversity, your success is likely to come to you.

But if you don’t, if you do not have the courage to face what is yours to face, do not hope for success.

Why? Because when it comes to success, when it comes to achieving the impossible, hope is not a plan.

‘Hope is not a strategy.’

If you want to be successful, adversity is the way.