Jessica Dore writes, “Healthy boundaries are like demarcations that separate our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors from the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors of others.”
It is important to set boundaries. If you do not already have one, you are putting your happiness at risk. If you do not know what you want, people will give you what you do not want. What you want is not a “rigid boundary”, but a healthy one.
Jessica Dore says, “A rigid boundary is one where nothing gets in and nothing gets out.”
That is not what you want. You want a healthy boundary. A healthy boundary is one where good things get in and bad things get out. It is a boundary where positive thoughts get in and negative thoughts get out. It is a boundary where you separate your negative thoughts from your positive thoughts.
If you want your boundary to work, to protect you, to separate you from toxic people, you must take it seriously. You must not joke with it. If you do, other people will joke with it.
But do not make your boundaries too rigid. In her book Tarot for Change: Using the Cards for Self-care, Acceptance, and Growth, Jessica Dore writes, “Ideally what we want is a boundary that’s firm, visible from a mile away but not welcoming. There’s a door way through the wall, but the gatekeeper is discerning and has a zero-tolerance policy for nonsense.” She adds, “The person who presumably built the wall is ill at ease. While a proper boundary should give us a break from the need to always stand guard, a porous one keeps us incessantly scanning the horizon for incoming threats.”
If you are not happy with yourself, think about what you are bringing into your life.
We are here to face our hurdles, not to run away from them. In life, there are many hurdles, there are many problems. You are not going anywhere if you do not comfront them. You are not going anywhere if you do not have the courage to face them. If you want them to go away, you must do something about them.
“A person who’s happy will make others happy.”- Anne Frank
Whatever you are going through in your life, remember, nothing is going to be here forever. Plants are not going to be here forever. Human beings are not going to be here forever. Animals are not going to be here forever. Nothing.
Nothing is going to last forever, not even your problems, not even your fears, not even your doubts, not even your mistakes, not even your failures. So whatever you are going through in your life, it will come to pass. It is not going to be here forever.
“A person who has courage and faith will never die in misery.”- Anne Frank
Be patient with yourself. Instead of comparing yourself to others, why not focus on what is going well for you. If you look within, you will find yourself again.
There is always something left to celebrate, to appreciate, to love, and to embrace. Remember that you live within you. So if you want to find yourself again, you must look within you. According to Anne Frank, “I’ve found that there is always some beauty left- in nature, sunshine, freedom, in yourself; these can all help you. Look at these things, then you find yourself again, and God, and then you regain your balance. A person who’s happy will make others happy; a person who has courage and faith will never die in misery.” If you have courage, you will live. You will never die in misery.