What does healing mean to you? Does it mean pain to you? Does it mean suffering to you?

When something happen to us, we try to understand everything before we commit ourselves to healing. Wrong, Wrong, Wrong. Instead of trying to understand everything before you commit yourself to self-healing, accept what happened, and find the next way forward.

Things will always happen to us. There is no way we can live our lives without running into problems. Some we can control; others we cannot control.

Control what you can control. Forget what you cannot control, and move on. Make sure you learn your lessons.

Don’t try to control your healing. Let your healing take care of itself. If you try to control your healing, you are preventing your healing from taking place. Gary Hensel posted a quote on my Twitter, which reads, “Healing doesn’t mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives.”

The problem we have with healing ourselves is that we try to control the healing process. If you try to control your healing, you are doing yourself more harm than good. Don’t try to control it.

When you are hurt,

• Don’t try to control your own healing. You will not succeed in doing that. The more you try to control everything, the more you are harming yourself.
• Accept the healing by not trying to be the master controller of your own healing
• Have an open mind to your own healing.
• Forgive yourself for what you are going through. Forgiveness is a two-way street.
• Forgive others for what you are going through. When you forgive others, others will forgive you.
• Don’t try to understand what happened to you. Accept what happened to you. Don’t beat yourself up. Learn from it, and keep going.

Healing is a process. It takes time to heal. Be patient. If you want to heal yourself, accept healing for yourself, and keep moving forward.