Tag: Focus

The Cost Of Being True To Yourself

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth

Nothing is free. ‘Everything comes with a price.’ Life comes with a price. Success comes with a price. Peace comes with a price. Growth comes with a price. Love comes with a price. Relationships cost something. Because nothing is free. Even your own growth is going to make some people unhappy. Because you are going forward. It is going to happen. But do not focus on what other people are saying about your life.

If you can just focus on what you are doing, if you can let go of people who are working day and night to bring you down, if you can trust yourself, if you can find your own way in your life, if you can trust your way, if you do not allow other people’s negative comments to distract you, if you can manage those who are not happy with you, if you can stop trying to please everybody, then you are being true to yourself.

No matter what is going on in your life, being true to yourself is the best way to go. Do not lie to yourself. Do not put yourself last. Do not try to make everyone your friend. Do not try to apologize for your success. Be proud of your failures. Because they made you who you are today.

But life comes with a price. Are you willing to pay it?

‘Control Is In Control When…’

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth

Control is about you, not about others. You can only control yourself, not others. Do not go there. Because it won’t work.

It won’t work. It is about you, not about other people. Before you try to control other people, try to control yourself.

Because the only person you can control is yourself. According to Iyanla Vanzant, ‘… control is in control when:

You are fighting to prove you are right; you will lie to prove you are right; you have a need to be right; you are yelling in order to be heard; the only view that makes sense is yours; you won’t say anything believing you won’t be heard; the only thing that matters is what maters to you; you are still giving reasons why after someone has said no; you think if someone gets what they want or need you will not get what you want or need; you jump on someone’s ‘case’ to keep them off your ‘case’; you believe someone can or will hurt you and you are trying to avoid it.’

Instead of trying to control other people, why not focus on how you are going to get what you want?

Why not focus on where you are going, what you are doing, and how you are living your life?

Why not focus on how you are going to better your life? Above all, why not focus on your happiness?