Tag: Focus

How To Build The Life You Want, According To Dr. Grace Lordan

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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‘By thinking in terms of the activities that you really want to be doing, you can identify the small steps you need to take to realize ME+.’

‘You will progress faster if you meet people outside your normal circles.’

‘It is essential to make your progress salient by auditing the activities you are doing and the milestones you are reaching’

‘To begin creating your own carrots and sticks, ask yourself this one question: ‘How can I lower the immediate costs and increase the immediate benefits of the small steps I need to take?’

‘It is okay to quit if there is an intention to do something much more worthwhile.’

‘It is important that you judge your progress by the quality of your decision-making, as opposed to the quality of your outcomes.’

‘One of the easiest ways to grow quickly is to get feedback from people with diverse backgrounds and life experiences.’

‘We don’t ask for help often enough, even when we really need it.’

‘It is your responsibility to seek feedback regularly and with a specific agenda.’

‘Thinking big and designing a plan to get there is something that you get to do rather than have to do.’

‘You will draw less on your own resilience reserves if you focus on your absolute progress, and avoid comparisons with others.’

How To Free Yourself From Whatever It Is That Is Holding You Back

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
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Whatever it is that is holding you back, you can set yourself free. It starts with what you want in your life.

If what you want is bigger than what is holding you back, you can defeat it. You can overcome it. And you can move your life forward.

To set yourself free, you must decide.

‘I know I’m not the only one who, to this day, still sometimes wishes they could just toss a decision over to mom. She’d know what to do.’– Lia Garvin

Make your own decision. Do not delegate your decision-making power to anyone, not even your mom. If you do that, you have given your power away.

To set yourself free, remember that you are not your mistakes.

‘When you realize a mistake wasn’t that big of a deal … then it wasn’t that big of a deal.’– Lia Garvin

Mistakes are not the end of the world. And they are not the end of your life. You are have a life that is bigger than a mistake.

When you make a mistake, own it. Do not beat yourself up for making a mistake. If you do, you will never learn something new.

We learn when we make mistakes, not when we are perfect. Remember, if you are not making mistakes, you are not trying hard enough.

If you want to set yourself free, you must stop thinking about your past failures.

‘The only person thinking about if other people are thinking about you is you.’– Lia Garvin

The only way to see where you are going is to focus on where you are going. The only way to reach where you are going is to stay in your own lane. The only way to succeed in life is to mind your own business.

And the only way to set yourself free is to stop thinking about your past failures.

To set yourself free, you must tell yourself what to do.

‘Our inner critic hates when we set goals, it’s literally like, ‘Who is this bitch to tell me what to do.?”– Lia Garvin

Whether your inner critics like your goals or not, if you want to be successful, you must set your goals. Why? Because you need a target. Your target is your destination. If you want to be successful, you must aim at something bigger than you.