Why You Cannot Find Your Purpose In Life, And What You Can Do About It

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To do well in life, you must first find your purpose in life. If you don’t know why you are here, if you don’t know what you want from life, if you don’t know how to get what you want from life, you will find it hard to succeed in life.

Why is that? Because life is all about knowing where you are going and how to get to there.

Let me ask you a simple but difficult question. Do you know what you want from life?

Napoleon Hill said, “Everyone wants the better things in life- money, fame, respect- but most people never go beyond just wishing for them.” If you want to find your “Why,” don’t just talk about what you want from life, but take a determined action to make it a reality.

Wishing is fruitless. Action is fruitful. Wishing is meaningless. Action is meaningful.

“Successful people move on their own initiative, but they know where they are going before they start.”- Napoleon Hill

Do you have your own initiative?

Are you ready and willing to move on your own initiative?

Do you know where you are going? Do you know how to get there? Once you are there, do you have what it takes to stay there?

Here is why it is so hard for you to find your OWN purpose in life:

  1. You allow people to make your decisions for you. If you want to find your purpose in life, take care of your decisions. No matter what, don’t allow anyone to make your decisions for you.
  2. You don’t trust yourself. Please, if you don’t trust yourself, no one will trust you. Trust is what you need to succeed in life. People like to work with someone they trust. If you want people to trust you, you must first trust yourself.
  3. You still live in the past. Don’t live in the past if you are to explore today for future opportunities. Yesterday cannot change your life. Only today can change your life. So, focus on today.
  4. You dwell on your past and present mistakes. It is okay to make mistakes, but it is not okay to make making mistakes a habit.
  5. You want to be perfect. If you want to be perfect at what you do, you will never master it. No one is perfect. Accept what you have, and work really hard to be better next time.
  6. You imitate other people. You can’t find your purpose in life if all you do is imitating others. It is not good. The more you focus on what other people are doing, the more you are ignoring your own needs and wants.
  7. You don’t value your time. If you really value your time on earth, you will not waste it on what you are not passionate about. According to late Steve Jobs, “Our time on earth is limited.” Use your time wisely!
  8. You are stuck in the job you don’t like. You cannot find your purpose in life if you continue to do what is not making you happy. If you don’t like what you are doing right now, make it better or leave.
  9. You quit when the going gets really tough. You quit when the pain becomes unbearable. No, don’t quit. You are not a quitter. No matter how hard, stay in it to finish it.
  10. You don’t like to take risks. If you don’t try something new, how would you know what you are good at? If you really want to find your purpose in life, according to Mark Cuban, “Do everything.”
  11. You don’t want to fail. If you try and fail, celebrate it. It is better to try and fail than to not try anything and still fail. You cannot succeed without failing at something. If you don’t want to fail, you don’t want to succeed.
  12. You are looking for the person the world wants you to be. Don’t look for the person the world wants you to be. Just be yourself. Don’t find yourself, create the person you really want to become.
  13. You don’t like change. If you don’t like to change, how do you expect to grow? There is no growth without change. If you want to find your purpose in life, you must embrace change.
  14. You think it is too late to start again. If you don’t like what you are doing now, change it. Start again. Do it again. It is never to late to start again.
  15. Your aim is too low. If you aim too low in life, you will not achieve much in life. If you want to achieve success in life, aim higher. The higher you aim, the better it is for you.
  16. You focus on security. If you want to grow, don’t focus on security, focus on opportunity. There is no security in life. Look for opportunities.
  17. You try to please everybody. Help people, but don’t ignore your needs and wants.

Making Things Happen

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“No man can live a full life while he is bound in any part of his nature. He must have freedom of thought as well as freedom of action to grow to his full height.”- Orison Sweat Marden

Your goal in life is to grow to your full height. Your goal in life is to make things happen, not allowing things to happen to you. When you allow things to happen to you, you have no control over it. But when you make things happen, you have control over every decision concerning that thing. In other words, you are the master of your life. You are the owner of your life.

There is nothing in life that you cannot achieve if you make things happen rather than allowing things to happen to you. Remember, anything that controls you is your master.

Don’t let things happen to you, make things happen to you. Whatever it is you want, you can get it. You can get by working smart, by working hard, by doing one thing at a time.

If you want to enjoy your life. if you want to be productive, if you want to be happier, make things happen to you rather than allowing things to fall on your head. If you do that, you are on your way to freedom.