Category: Spirituality

Is Your Comfort Zone Really Comfortable For You?

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“Whether you are trying something new or doing the exact same thing, it’s all risky.”- Rob Bell

What are you denying yourself? What are you tolerating? What are you pretending to be? What are you resisting?

Are you resisting your true life? Are you pretending to be who you are not? Is your comfort zone really comfortable for you? Are you pursuing your dreams? Is fear stopping you from enjoying your life?

Life is not about resisting things; it is about exploring new opportunities. Why is that? Because life is about growth. As the old saying goes, “If you are not growing, you are dying.” Simple. You don’t need a degree to understand that.

“Do not resist events that move you out of your comfort zone, especially when your comfort zone was not all that comfortable.”- Irene C. Kassorla

What are you afraid of? Whatever it is that is scaring you to death, it is time to say good bye to it. It is time to bring out the best within you. It is time to stop making excuses. It is time to start doing. It is time to stop talking. Now is the time. Not later, not tomorrow, not next week, not next month, not next year, but now. Now!

Whatever comes your way, don’t resist it, explore it. That is where your growth is going to come from. There is no growth in sameness. You can’t grow if you continue to do the same thing. Yes, you are enjoying it, everyone around you is praising you, you are happy doing it, but is it changing you? If what you are doing is not growing you, if it is not adding value to your life, if it is not changing your mind, if it is not making you uncomfortable, if you are not learning new things, if it is easy, if you are not questioning yourself enough, change it. Because the path of least resistance adds nothing to your life. Instead, it takes away your time.

Don’t forget that we are not going to be here forever. Time is priceless. Just because something makes you comfortable doesn’t make it better for you. If you want to grow, you must face the things that really scares you. You must get out of your comfort zone. You must do new things. You must challenge yourself. You must always, always question what you are doing? Always question your assumptions. Don’t just go with the flow, question the flow. If you can’t question the flow, leave the flow alone.

You are not here to go with the flow; you are here to question the flow. To do that, to change yourself, to take the first step, to change your thoughts, do it slowly. Do not rush yourself into changing something. Because real change doesn’t happen overnight. So whatever you want to do, start slowly. Be really honest with yourself. Take the risks. Don’t resist life, live it. Don’t resist growth, experience it. Don’t resist events, be part of them. Don’t silent yourself, express yourself. Don’t do what you cannot do, do what you can do. Don’t pretend to be who you are not, pretend to be the real you.

Whether you are scared of something or not, do it anyway. Because life is about doing scary things anyway. So what are you scared of? Whatever it is that is torturing you, do it anyway.

Who Are The People You Spend The Most Of Your Time With?

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We are not alone. We don’t live our lives alone. We live our lives with people. We play with people. We love people. We eat with people. We study with people. We are part of something bigger than ourselves.

What is that thing that is bigger than yourself? Is it a true friend? Is it a loving relationship? Or is it living your life the way you want it? Whatever it is that is bigger than yourself, that is where your soul is.

Live with your soul. Do not be afraid to choose the people you associate yourself with. Because you are who you associate yourself with. As Miguel De Cervantes famously said, “Tell me thy company, and I’ll tell thee what thou art.” Tell me who your friends are, I will tell you where you are going. Tell me the people you associate yourself with, I will tell you your next step. This is quiet simple, but difficult to follow.

If you want to do great things, follow great doers. If you want to change the world, follow people who are changing the world. If you want to become the person you were created to be, follow your heart. If you want to be loved, follow loving people. If you want to be happy, follow happy people. Don’t waste your time hanging around negative people. Don’t forget that we get what we attract into our lives. So if you want great people to come into your life, you must always think about great people. Because you get what you sow.

Don’t try to keep people who are not adding anything to your life. It doesn’t matter who they are, don’t just keep them. They are going to confuse you. They are going to try to make you live the way they live. They are going to try to convince you that your dream is not good enough. You will hear something like this: “It is not new. Other people are doing it.” When you hear something like that, don’t nurture it. Don’t even think about it. Just let it die. It is not yours. It is for them. It belongs to them.

That is why you should pick your friends carefully. Yes, pick your friends carefully. Some people pretend to be for us, but in reality, they are not for us, they are against us. They don’t want you to move past them. They don’t want you to have what they have. They don’t want you to know what they are doing, where they are going, what their dreams are. You have to be really careful of the places you go to. I am not saying you shouldn’t enjoy your life. Enjoy your life. But do it with people who are lifting you up, not putting you down. Because living is going up, not going down. Are you going up or down?