Month: April 2022

The Secret Of Happiness, According To The Dalai Lama

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by Artem Beliaikin

What is the real secret of happiness?

To answer this question, the Dalai Lama says, “Many people feel money is the source of a happy life. Money is necessary, but useful- but more and more money doesn’t bring happiness. Relying on money to be happy is too materialistic.”

Happiness is not about money.

Happiness doesn’t care about your money.

It is more than your money.

If you are not happy, don’t blame your money.

Happiness is not about your bank account.

Happiness is not about your titles.

Happiness is not about your cars.

Happiness is not about your vacation homes.

Happiness is more than material possessions.

Happiness happens in your mind.

If your mind is healthy, clean, positive, you will find happiness. The Dalai Lama adds: “Nowadays, many people have the belief that if material progress continues, then everything will be okay. That way of thinking is a mistake. Material goods provide comfort for the physical body but not for the mind.”

If you want to be happy, you must work really hard to protect your mind. Remember, happiness is not about money. It is about your mind.

Further Reading:

Goleman, D., A Force for Good: The Dalai Lama’s Vision for Our World (New York: Bantam Books, 2015): 106-107

2 Anger Management Lessons From Dalai Lama

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development, Personal Growth
Photo by Andrea Piacquadio

When you are angry, the Dalai Lama says, “Keep a calm mind, study the situation, then take a countermeasure. If you let a wrongdoing happen, it might continue and increase, so, out of compassion, take appropriate countermeasures.”

You can’t live without anger. But how you act matters. What you do matters. When you are angry, try to control yourself. You can’t control the other person. But you can control yourself, your actions.

Do not let your anger take over your life. When you are angry, ask yourself, Is this the right way to conduct myself?

If it is not the right way, then stay away. Forgive yourself. Forgive the other person. It is difficult, but doable.

Do not go to bed with someone else’s problem.

Do not let anger ruin your life, your day, your future. No matter what, always try to stay calm when others are going crazy. The Dalai Lama says, “Tolerance means that you should not develop anger or hatred. But if another person does something harmful to us,’ and we do nothing, the person may take even more adavantage of us, and even more negative action may come.”

Treat yourself as you want to be treated. Remember, whatever you tolerate, people will do more of it to you. If you want others to treat you with love, you must first treat yourself with love. If not, it won’t happen.

Further Reading:

Goleman, D., A Force for Good: The Dalai Lama’s Vision for Our World (New York: Bantam Books, 2015): 86-87.