Don’t Dwell On What Went Wrong

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Things will always go wrong in life. You cannot control everything in life. There are things that you can control, and there are things you cannot control. Control what you can control. Don’t worry about what you cannot control. If you focus on what you cannot control, that is the beginning of unhappiness. If you want to be happy, focus on what you can control.

Look, if you have everything under your belt, you are playing it too safe. When you are playing a safe game, nothing significant will go wrong. But when you are playing a rough and intelligent game, something will go wrong. When you are trying to change your life, it won’t be easy. When you are getting into a new job, a new career, a new city, it won’t be easy. When you are trying to be creative, it won’t be easy. When you are trying to live your life, in your own way, it won’t be easy. It is not always going to be easy. But if you play your game well, you can reduce the stress associated with moving forward. As Mario Andretti put it, “If you have everything under control, you are not moving fast enough.” When you are doing creative things, you have no control over them. You just want to explore.

Dennis Waitley said, “Don’t dwell on what went wrong. Instead, focus on what to do next. Spend your energy on moving forward toward finding the answer.” Whatever you are going through in life, looking forward for solutions is the best answer. If you continue to dwell on the past, you can’t find the right solution to your problem.

In moving forward, focus on how you are going to improve your life, not living in the past. If you continue to live in the past, you will always find it hard to enjoy the moment. Look forward, not backward. Discipline yourself for greatness. Jim Rohn said, “It is the small discipline that leads to great accomplishments.” Instead of beating yourself up, focus on doing the things that will take you closer to your dreams. The little things matter. If you do the little things well, the big things will take care of themselves. In addition to that, you must program yourself for success. Don’t live in yesterday’s world. Live in today’s world. Think success. Plan for success. Preparation is the key to success. If you want to succeed, you must prepare yourself to succeed. Confucius, the great philosopher, said, “Success depends on our previous preparations, and without such preparations there is sure to be failure.” If you want to succeed, you must be ready to work hard. Success depends on hard work.

If you don’t live in yesterday, if you don’t focus on what is not working for you, if you focus on the positive things and how to make things better for you, you will come back again. You will come back again!

The time will pass anyway

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When the going gets really tough, for most of us, it is easier to quit than to continue. It does not matter what you are pursuing, nothing great comes easy, do not quit. No matter how hard or how long the journey might be, just keep doing what you are doing- continue.

A lot of people gave up on their dreams before they even started. Do not give up on your own. Your dream is your future. If you give up on your dream because it is too hard, or because it will take years to reach, think about what will happen to you and your life if stop pursuing your dream. Ask yourself: “Am I going to be better or am I going to remain miserable?” If you know that where you are now is better, then stay there. But if you know that where you are now is taking so much away from you than adding to it, then it is time for you to think of what to do next. Do not stay in a place, a job, a relationship, that is not adding value to your life.

When the going gets really tough, for most of us, it is easier to quit than to continue.”

If you are tired of where you are, if you tired of doing the same thing over and over again, it is time to move forward. I know it is hard to take the first bold step, but you can do it. You can do it. If you don’t know what to do, reach out to people who where in your situation before and have made similar moves. Talk to them, seek their help. This is the time to pocket your “ego.”

Remember, when you are taking the first bold move, it is not going to be easy. It is going to be messy. But that is what makes life so interesting- you don’t always know what is ahead of you. Always prepare for the unexpected and hope for the best. Never give up on your dreams. Life is too important to waste. Don’t waste yours. Earl Nightingale said, “Never give up on a dream just because of the time it take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway.”

That is what you need to remember: Whether you pursue your dream or not, the time will pass anyway. Since you now know that the time will surely pass, why not do whatever it takes to pursue your dream?

Never give up!