Tag: Acceptance

Healing Is…

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Health & Well-Being, Personal Development
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What does healing mean to you? Does it mean pain to you? Does it mean suffering to you?

When something happen to us, we try to understand everything before we commit ourselves to healing. Wrong, Wrong, Wrong. Instead of trying to understand everything before you commit yourself to self-healing, accept what happened, and find the next way forward.

Things will always happen to us. There is no way we can live our lives without running into problems. Some we can control; others we cannot control.

Control what you can control. Forget what you cannot control, and move on. Make sure you learn your lessons.

Don’t try to control your healing. Let your healing take care of itself. If you try to control your healing, you are preventing your healing from taking place. Gary Hensel posted a quote on my Twitter, which reads, “Healing doesn’t mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives.”

The problem we have with healing ourselves is that we try to control the healing process. If you try to control your healing, you are doing yourself more harm than good. Don’t try to control it.

When you are hurt,

  • Don’t try to control your own healing. You will not succeed in doing that. The more you try to control everything, the more you are harming yourself.
  • Accept the healing by not trying to be the master controller of your own healing
  • Have an open mind to your own healing.
  • Forgive yourself for what you are going through. Forgiveness is a two-way street.
  • Forgive others for what you are going through. When you forgive others, others will forgive you.
  • Don’t try to understand what happened to you. Accept what happened to you. Don’t beat yourself up. Learn from it, and keep going.

Healing is a process. It takes time to heal. Be patient. If you want to heal yourself, accept healing for yourself, and keep moving forward.

To Move Forward In Life, You Must Be Your Real Self

by Bright Osadiaye, posted in Personal Development
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“The person who is not master of himself can never be master of others.”- Napoleon Hill

“You are the architect of your own life.”– Napoleon Hill

“You can do great things in life if you are your best self.”– E. Bright

“Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.”– Carol Burnett, actress

“What is the point of being alive if you don’t at least try to do something remarkable.”– John Green, author

If you want to achieve greatness in your life, you must be who you are. You must be your real self.Don’t worry about what people are saying about you. Focus on what is important to you, and how you are going to get the results you are looking for.

Accept yourself the way you are. Don’t let anyone put you down, or talk you down. Choose your fight wisely. Don’t fight petty fight. They are irrelevant. They will not help reach your goals. They will set you back. When people disagree with you, respectfully tell them how you feel, and move on.

Don’t let negative comments affect your life. Why? Because there are people out there whose sole purpose is to make you unhappy, to tear you down, to point out what is wrong about you, to tell you that you are not good enough, to tell you that you are doing the wrong course. It is their opinion, not yours. Their negative comments about you will affect you only if you allow them into your life, only if you allow them to stay in your life.

If you dismiss them immediately and replace them with positive comments about yourself, they will not stay. They will fade away. Remember, if you don’t play negative comments in your head, you will not remember them, you will forget them. So, if you want to deal with negative talk, replace them with positive ones.

You are who you are. Don’t try to be who you are not. If you do that, you are not living your life, you are living someone else’s life. To move forward in life, learn how to live your own life